Causes, my foot. You’re saying he was provoked, and I’m saying that’s either irrelevant or it’s bullshit.
Let me be real clear on this. Moderators do not have the time to play the role of investigating detective, prosecuting attorney, judge and jury. A favorite quote of mine about parents can apply to Moderators as well: “Parents aren’t interested in justice, parents are interested in quiet.”
Thus, when we get someone reporting a post because they were insulted, we do not have time or energy to spend sifting through the 80 prior posts (in this case), looking to see who provoked whom and who started what when. We act on the reported post. Provocation is irrelevant. “He hit me first” is no excuse.
Is that just? Perhaps not in some absolute philosophical sense… but it’s fair.
And the moral of the story: if someone insults you in an manner that’s inappropriate, DON’T INSULT THEM BACK. Instead, use the REPORT THIS POST button (the exclamation point in the upper right corner of each post) to call it to the attention of the Moderators.
I can practically guarantee that in a long thread, the Moderators will NOT have time to go back and try to figure out which one started the insults, where the first provocation came from, who hit whom back, or anything that detailed. The post that gets reported is where we’ll take action. So, if you think you’re in the right and you’ve been insulted in a forum where it’s not acceptable, report the damn post. If you hit back, then you’re the one who’s likely to get in trouble.
And, as I said before, in this particular situation, we’re not talking about a small number of incidents.
I don’t know that we’ve established that as a firm policy. I think you’d be wise to assume that it IS the policy. But the reality is that some Mods are more willing to give a second chance than others, and that it also depends on the extent of the misbehaviors (and on a few other factors).
Our past experience: when we re-admit someone who has been banned after half a dozen warnings, they almost always get themselves banned again in a matter of days. Hence, some of us don’t like the idea of a “second chance” because the results have almost always been disappointing.