Perhaps I was unclear, but I thought the phrase “I’m asking you” would indicate that I’m not telling you what to do (nor do I claim the authority to do so). As far as a threat goes, well, if you take that to mean that I will not sit quietly and watch you continue to make backhanded swipes at my dear friend, then you would be correct.
If you saw that particular post as a slam to either you or Kathryn, then you either were not as aware of the circumstances as you think you were, or you completely misinterpreted it. Honestly I don’t know how. That was very literal, as I believe Kathryn would testify to. I took (or as least wanted to take) the entire blame for that particular event, and as far as I’m concerned, that statement is still true. If at any time someone involved saw that as some sort of “slam” then I am sorry that I did not seem more obsequious or seriously repentant, for that was the intent without any sort of implied meaning.
Your statements, on the other hand… the one I e-mailed you about was IMHO particularly harsh, and I don’t recall you denying it. (I will refrain from bringing up the details in deference to Kathryn.) But yes, let us go back and re-read the entire thread. If we do so, let us read them in the context that Kathryn has told you she doesn’t wish to speak with you now. The reasons for that are probably quite relevant to this discussion, but will remain private for you two to work out if you so choose to. But this kind of public prodding at someone you call a “friend”, the implication that she owes you attention for some reason, is really quite pathetic. I can sympathize that you are hurt, but that’s no excuse for this.
I will freely admit that how I interpret your statements to Kathryn is not important (unless you were intending to anger me, and I don’t believe you are). Rather, the important thing is how she interprets them, and I think you’d find she’d agree with me. I suggest you ask her.
mrblue92 asked you to stop it. Asked, not told. A friendly request no different than many you have given me. Not appreciated on your end?
While none of these actual words are bad, the combination of your public and private attacks with these turn abouts and asking me to “try to be noble for a moment” when you deserved merely to be ignored is galling.
I will be clearer. Please stop baiting me with words both bitter and sweet through e-mail or board communication. Your behavior toward me has been one step this side of evil until you decided you “missed” me. Your false saccharine words cannot take away the bitterness of your earlier behavior. You are a false friend and no friend of mine. I have no wish for anything ugly to result, I wish merely to not have to deal with a negative force in my life any longer.
I am willing to ignore what you say to me. Please do not attack my friends. mrblue is only attempting to shield me from your antics. If you truly cared a whit you would not behave as you have.
Oh, and you “MULTIPLE support/sympathy/berevement threads” recently have come to my attention. Surprising coming from one who often asked me how I could stand to garner affection to random people I would never be able to get anything back from. Who often whined about how much such threads seemed like begging and takes pride in never having to ask for support himself. Who avoided them for months as they drew him down and took too much out of him to even read.
DRY, I truly hope you can learn from this. That somewhere in your empty manipulative life you can catch a glimmer of happiness and the true good light you can get from friends. Not the pride and snubbery you have turned into an art or the vicious threats and attacks you plan, but the bright pure goodness that comes from just the act of giving of yourself alone. Not what you can get back. Not praise or public status or debt, but the purity of just giving.
Of all that you have done recently I would be willing to recieve all the attacks you can send to me if you continued your support of people you will never get anything back from. I would do so willingly in the hopes that two things would come about. First, that someone would recieve your support and be a better person for it without feeling indebted to you. Second, that one day your gift of support and affection would become real and be given without grudge.
Grow to be well, Dan. But I will have no more to do with you.