Loneliness and homesickness

I’m a freshman at college…have been for about a month and a half, now. Tonight I’m having a serious bout of homesickness. It’s not that I miss so much the home comforts (although having a tub sounds really good right now)…

No, what I really miss are the friendships I had back home. I keep in contact–“talk” on ICQ and all such things–but it’s not the same. And although I’ve made friendships here, they’re not of the same depth at all…there’s no one I can hug here. And I’m surrounded by people, every now and then I feel all alone, anyway.

Anyway, TM, I just needed to spill my MPS…I’ll be better tomorrow morning.

Take care, all…thanks for reading.


I know just how you feel. I’ve been in Australia for six months nearly, and I haven’t made any friends at all, really. And I doubt I’ll ever find friends as great as those I’ve left behind.

I miss my family too. Heaps.

All I can do, though, is buck up, carry on, and know that things will be brighter in time.

And have a good laugh, that always cheers me up!


“Waheeey! ‘Duck!’ Get it?”
“Errr… No…”
“Duck! Sounds almost exactly like fu-”

Give yourselves a chance. How can you manage a deep friendship is a couple of months? You can’t! It takes time and effort.

I have lived in various countries, states, and counties over the years and have never regretted a single move if only for the people I met along the way.

Most of the people I met while in college turned into vague memories, but the friends I made there I still have. You’ll find friends too if you look for them.

…at night, the ice weasels come…


Sorry to hear you’re feelin’ so blue. I well remember that first semester in college. I was 3000 miles away from where I had grown up and gone to high school, and my parents had moved to Arizona so I wouldn’t even be going home to see everybody at Christmas. Didn’t have IM and EM in them days either (::looking around for cane:: ).

It does take a while. Get involved in some of the on-campus activities, and stuff like that. I promise it will get better. My best friend now that I am an old lady :wink: is a guy that I met in college; we even worked together for eight years at the same firm. Lots of people I know even met their future spouses at college.

Good luck, and hang in there.


By the light of day…Thanks for symphatizing. I’m sure college will get better; it’s just that every now and then I get a little lonely. Generally, I love being here. I miss the small town I’m from, but it’s nice being in a place without the baggage I’ve carried for the past five years. Contradictory, but true.

YB: I’m not despairing of ever making good friends, just missing the ones I’ve left behind. I know it takes time and effort. Thanks for the advice, though.

GuanoLad: Don’t worry–I’m sure you’ll make good friends. I know it’s depressing remembering everyone, but it will get better. Good luck down under, and take care.