There’s a blog I’ve been reading that I can’t find through googling. I think it’s on blogspot. Basically the blogger puts up stories that she gets from women who tell stories about guys who have stalked or come on way too strong or been pretty scary, and I can’t find it. Does anyone know what it’s called? Thanks!
The closest thing I can think of off the top of my head is Hollaback NYC (and its city-specific offshoots), though that’s more about street harassment and assault (and occasionally murder).
Googling stalking + blogs is a real dick – all you get is stuff about bloggers being stalked and harassed and people being e-stalked through their blogs and online activities.
Fraid that’s not it. Thanks, though…
That’s been happening to me, too. It’s stuff like…one girl who was about 18 or so, I think, met a weird guy on MySpace and then agreed to meet up with him in real life so he could buy her and her friends alcohol and then he kept calling and calling and calling. Or other weird stories like that. It’s hard to find, though. I should have bookmarked it!
It’s not Psychotic Letters from Men, is it?
Augh! That’s it! Thanks, apollonia! I forgot about the letter part.
I just spent the last hour reading it - it’s very entertaining!
I’m a bloke and I do believe that people get stalked,I was stalked by a bunny boiler myself once.
But in the interests of fairness aren’t a fair percentage of the stalking stories from women who IRL would have just as much chance of getting off with a bloke as they would being able to juggle ferrets ?
The stories from georgeous,but non famous women,about being stalked seem to be heavily outnumbered by those of females who are quiet honestly often plain and/or over weight.
I am very outgoing myself and I’ll pass the time of day with mostly anyone,old,young,male, female,well off or tramps and I’ve found that when chatting to good looking women they take it for what it is,passing the time of day and nothing else, but if I do the same with an overweight,spotty munter its not unusual for them to start doing the “OMG hes chatting me up” me reaction.
I know it sounds stupid, as I’ve got a face like a bag of rivets on my BETTER days,but if exchanging idle conversation with a female stranger I tend to avoid the plain ones just in case and talk to the better looking ones or elderly.
No.
Cite ?
You made the assertion. The cite is your responsibility.
How do you know what the people who wrote in to that blog look like?
CATFIGHT answered a question of mine with a very distinct NO.
Implying that its NOT fat unattractive,fantasists who make the majority of allegations of being stalked by males.
Now this suggests that she/he has factual accounts or figures to back his/her assertation up.
It could well be that she/he are themselves victims of such an event or it could be in the all fairness that they themselves are fantasists trying to get sympathy/attention.
I myself have no opinion either way ,victim or liar I cant say one way or the other.
I gave my opinion based on my own personal experience,now I myself could be a sick,nasty ,attention seeking little liar trying to get sympathy off of gullible strangers on a MB.
How would you know ?
And I cant cite my own personal experiences.
I dont know CATFIGHT have never met her,and it would be pretty unlikely that I could ever meet her given geographical circumstances so as far as I know she is as honest as the day is long,or not as the case may be.
But what evidence do you have that that is in fact the truth–that unattractive people are inventing stalking stories? I’ve never heard anything like this.
I would be very surprised if anyone has done research rating stalking victims on a 1-to-10 scale of hotness, so who really knows.
My personal experience has been that it seems like the good-looking women I know receive much more unwanted male attention than I do (I don’t consider myself to be especially good looking). I would expect that good looking women do tend to get more stalkers just because more men notice them in the first place. Even if many stalking victims are unattractive by social standards, though, that doesn’t necessarily mean they weren’t really stalked. Stalkers are, by definition, mentally ill. Mentally ill people may very well do things that don’t make sense to the rest of us.
On the issue of unattractive women reacting badly to your efforts to make conversation, it’s quite possible that unattractive women are used to being treated badly in social situations and therefore are very defensive when approached. Of course, not wanting to talk to someone once is a whole different ball game than stalking allegations.
I think you’re probably right but I cant spend every minute of my life analysing the reaction to me from everyone.
i’m reasonably bright and reasonably fit but it seems that in the new world I have to act stupid and pretend to be a cripple
Ummm. No one’s saying that. I’m just curious how you knew how attractive the women were who sent in the stories to the blog. Like, how do you know they weren’t “attractive” women who were justified (by your standards) in being stalked?
You don’t have to analyze every reaction. Just either do so or stop posting offensive stuff on the Internet for people to laugh at.
I had a co-worker who was stalked. It isn’t very funny being assaulted by a stranger according to her. I am willing to believe.
Stalking is multiple contacts that are unwanted. Just striking up a conversation isn’t stalking.
Dont get me wrong I reiterate my complete belief that stalking happens,that it is not that rare and that is a totally reppellent crime but also believe that not everyone who claims that they are being stalked(Or have been )actually are,whether knowingly or unknowingly.
For some the belief may arise out of insecurity,and if they believe that they are being stalked then they most certainly are going to notice their"stalker" when he/she happens to be in the same street/shop/pub/park whatever how ever innocently.
Their belief will be strengthened by their however unwilling compulsion to to look at their "stalker"to see if he/she is still there,are they getting nearer/looking at them/acting oddlly etc. causing their "stalker "to feel self conscious and wonder if his/her flys are undone/showing too much cleavage etc. and to look back in turn at the "weirdo"who keeps throwing sureptitious glances at them.
Others IMO claim to be stalked etc.to hopefully cause other people to believe that they are in fact sexually attractive despite all evidence to the contrary.
Many years ago I worked behind the bar at a holiday camp along with some very attractive young women and one overweight woman with bad skin.
This woman was always apparently receiving risque 'suggestions from the customers,being asked back to their chalet,did she have a BF? and so on.
Our boss was a bit concerned about this but a lttle sceptical as the goodlooking young woman there weren’t be pestered.
So we were detailed to always have some one serving close by her,pay attention to any conversation and if a customer was getting too familiar with her to move in immediately and defuse the situation.
She was unaware that we’d been told to do this as the boss didn’t want her to feel self conscious.
Not one of us heard anything even remotely that could be described as of being sexual in nature.
After work she made the same complaints of customers continuinly sexually harrassing her.
not receiving any sympathy over the next three days she offered herself pretty straightforwardly for sex to each of the male bar staff but “in confidence”.
We compared notes and every single one of us had declined her offer.
We told the boss and he sacked her,she then accused one of the dining room staff who notoriously loathed and despised her of stalking her.
She also claimed that she owned a Dairy Farm and a night club.
To the extent that this stereotype (of being accused of being a stalker or chatting people up when striking up pass-the-time-on-the-bus conversation) happens to me at all, I find the exact opposite to be true. Now our anecdotes have canceled out and there’s no data at all. =P
If I’m standing next to you at a railway station I promise not to try and chat you up,or discuss the weather or anything. 