I’m in a great relationship with someone I love very much, and most aspects of it leave nothing to be desired, but I feel like my SO and I don’t get out enough to do things together. Movies once in a while, the bar scene; but I’m not a terribly active person socially and being in a large group of people chatting endlessly wears thin for me… I’m looking for things I can suggest that we do which are fun, creative, and will give us shared experiences to treasure. This could turn into a good resource for any young couple as well…
Get thee to the museum! Art’s one of the best conversation catalysts around.
Take dance lessons. The SO and I took Latin dance lessons and followed them up with ballroom. We had a GREAT time and got to know some terrific people. Don’t worry about having two left feet (everyone does at first) or being in a crowd - the classes weren’t that big and everyone was in the same boat.
Museum’s are a good recommendation.
Take up a sport (we play tennis together and have friends that are croquet fiends - both of which also permit you to relax with a cold drink afterwards).
Take up golf (get lessons together first).
You could try pool, snooker, billiards, 
hiking, kayaking, indoor rock climbing, tennis, or golf.
It might help us make recommendations if we have some ideas about your and your SO’s interests though.
Mini-golf is fun, relatively inexpensive, and doesn’t require a lot of expertise.
One thing I remember being a lot of fun was working on some remodeling projects together after we bough our house. Planning it out, looking at fixtures and colors, and then working on most of it ourselves was interesting and at the end we had something we could say “WE did this.”
One of the reasons I started this thread is because I’m a fairly quiet person with quiet, solitary hobbies… she and I both read a lot, neither of us is in great physical condition (nor are we truly out of shape), and I mentioned creative things to do because I’m looking for new things we could become interested in together, neither of us being into sports much… but I love what I’m hearing from you all already, the redecorating thing is actually a work in progress on her apartment and it IS bringing us together to work on it… dance lessons are something we’ve discussed before too… if it helps, we’re in Montreal, I only really have Sunday to spend the day with her… don’t think I’m being reticent, I just realized how little I know about what she enjoys doing…
Scuba diving is equipment intensive, but a lot of fun.
Refinishing furniture perhaps?
Maybe team sports at the YMCA?
Is there an indoor shooting or archery range nearby?
How about a language class?
I strongly recommend dance lessons. Loads of fun, and it never hurts to know how to dance well. My wife and I got to know each other ballroom dancing, and have always really enjoyed having it as an alternative to sitting in a bar when we want to go out.
Other good things are hiking, biking, etc. Active recreation is a good bonding experience, even if you aren’t super athletic.
Whatever you do, though, you will win major points if you occasionally just plan a cool outing yourself. Everyone loves someone who can have good ideas and follow through by making plans. It doesn’t even have to be anything major – in San Francisco, for example, a good plan would be to take a staircase walk through one of the cool neighborhoods, followed by coffee and desert at a nice coffee shop. It’s all about showing initiative and creativity – the fact that you’re posting here already makes you look good.
Heres what me and wife do: ride motorcycles, bowling, darts, camping, shopping (she hits all the thrift stores and I watch the kid and buy tools), work on the yard/lawn/trees/pull weeds, watch tv/play playstation once in a while, travel, dine out, play with the kid (this is what we do the most, as he is the most important dude in our lives).
what is also important is spending some time apart also. she has her animal projects (see her cool website below) and I hang out in the garage and build stuff and burn stuff up with my welder. (and drink beer!)
Damn! I have forgotten to not become drunken again!
It’s been a while since I lived in Montreal, but how about:
Have a picnic at Mont Royal.
Go inline skating or bicycling from Vieux-Montreal down to the Grand Prix race track.
Take a day-trip out to Saint-Sauveur (along with everyone else in Montreal :rolleyes: ).
Do they still run the fireworks festival in the summers? It’s fun to lay on a blanket in the grass on a nice summer evening.
Long walks are good exercise and at a slow enough pace you can still converse.
So I should be taking this as a hint, right?
I keep telling loupdebois to get rollerblades with me, although the aforementioned redecorating of the apartment has set that plan back a bit. St -Saveur is out, as neither of us drive . . . not a bad idea though, if we make a group outing or double date and grab car people to go with. Bowling I like . . . how 'bout you, hun?
And we play pool way too often. 
Museum is a good idea, swing lessons would be fun, long walks in august in Montreal are an invitation to heat stroke however.
Some of the things Mr Del and I do together:
All sorts of board games, we play backgammon, scrabble, the usual. We also like cards, and we had a real hoot last summer when we dug up a book of old card games in his grandmother’s house, ones we had never heard of before, and taught ourselves how to play them. We also have some double dates with other couples and play cards.
Once in a while, we pick a tourist attraction in our city that we have never been to, you know, because it’s always full of tourists.
Scan local papers for off-beat theater stuff, it’s usually cheap and a lot of it is terrible, but we stumble upon some real gems once in a while.
You mentioned movies, we see a lot of current releases with friends, but for a special romantic evening, we usually hit the artsy theater that shows great classic films – romance, musicals, film noir, etc.
We started to learn more about wines, and will buy a bottle of something new (to us) and sample it over the course of an afternoon. Sadly, we are so dorky that this usually turns into us goofing on our idea of high-class people enjoying fine wines, but I imagine this would still be fun for people who take it seriously.
I always hoped we would cook together, but Mr. Del has no interest in cooking, so we still have lovely cooking afternoons where I cook, and Mr. Del reads something out loud to keep us entertained.
We both like to read, too (as you mentioned) so if we come upon a book we both enjoy that’s set where we live, we’ll make a little tour of some of the locations. We will also have trips to the library together, especially if there’s a reading or something else of interest going on, or even just to take out books and then go to the park and read companionably.
Reading out loud is great- do you like poetry? Not necessarily love poetry- my SO and I read Dylan Thomas, T.S. Eliot, etc. aloud to each other, and I read books aloud. Right now we’re working on The Lantern Bearers by Rosemary Sutcliff.
Go to small local restaurants together, fingerpaint, explore interesting city areas on foot, go to art galleries, build snow forts in winter. Local theatre productions can be fun and cheap. Watch for coffee houses and open mike sessions at local bars and cafes.
Have fun!
When I get back, give me a call, and we can go bowling, a double date!
Scott and I bowled about 3 times in the past year, actually. It was pretty fun. Rose Bowl is CLOSE.
We do a lot of the things mentioned above and enjoy them. I echo the dance lessons. Great exercise!!
But one thing my wife and I do periodically is, get lost!
I know it sounds weird, but it is great fun. We head to an area we do not know (usually rural) and make a concerted effort to get lost. It is great fun and when you are totally messed up and certain of it, stop at a local cafe have dinner and ask where the nearest bed and breakfast is. And when you are there ask the host for one thing you absolutely should not miss while in the area (Also ask for directions back to Montreal).
We also read to one another - especially on long road trips. Do any local airlines offer mystery flights? Those are great fun also.
OMIGOSH! Y’all have to take a day trip to Vieux Quebec. When I first started learning French, my hs class took a trip there and we spent one day in Mtl (I used to live in upstate NY). The city was so beautiful and romantic. You can walk along the great wall around the city, take a tour of le Chateau Frontenac, check out the fleuve, etc…
I’m glad you posted this thread as well - my SO and I have the same problem. However, we can only see each other once a week (we live and go to school in different cities). Also, being college students, we’re kinda poor. Anyone have any ideas concerning the OP that might not cost anything???
How about taking a creative class together like drawing or painting, sculpture, etc.? I had a great time a few years back (with an ex, I must admit, but nothing lests forever…) when the two of us signed up for a photography class together. It gave us something to talk about besides the house and the car and the groceries and what’s for dinner. It also led us to some interesting weekend get-aways as we searched out new places to take pictures.
We also took a few drawing classes together - something that I now continue alone. When both of you are doing it, you always have a subject to draw! I still have a couple of drawings of him drawing me drawing him drawing me…
And, because it’s something that I personally like to do, as have a couple of boyfriends, I must selfishly recommend antiquing and carousing second-hand shops - that can be a great way to spend a rainy sunday afternoon.
Games. Board games, card games, dice games, there are all sorts.
Hiking. Find an easy and scenic route for a one day trip.
Jigsaw puzzles and similar things.
Keeping pets, and not necessarily dogs or cats. Fishes are a good alternative.