Did I write the OP under a sock puppet when I was drunk? Hmm. Don’t remember doing so, but the story seems to match mine exactly. Oh wait, couldn’t have been me. Wasn’t a ripped condom. We used other kinds of teenager failed birth control: a combination of the “I’m invincible!” and “You can’t get pregnant if you just do it once” methods.
Don’t worry, in another year, you will barely even remember your days with only 2 kids. (Of course, for the period of 9 months from now to 2 years from now, you will be so worn out you’ll barely be able to remember anything.)
When my 2 year old is displaying a stereotypical “terrible twos” behavior, I often call my brother. Seems that he was an ooops baby also, and I thank him for being such a good brother so that I know that having three kids will pay off in happiness in the long run.
So, enjoy the minivan. They are not as evil as you have previously believed.
We have two unplanned (at least as to timing) kids, of the three. We have no unwanted ones. The third was a bit of a shock, since it took us two and a half years of trying for the second, and she was only fifteen months old and we weren’t trying when the third got her start. I remember sitting with the baby and crying, apologizing to her because she wouldn’t get to be the baby for very long. Little did I know she’s naturally everybody’s mother anyway. I think God slipped the youngest in there to surprise us, because she sees everything from a slightly different angle. She’s been fun all along, even as she’s a challenge sometimes. The world is a more interesting place, with her in it.
I hope the newest little greenback lights up your world.
Well, I’ve got three- ages 5, 3.5 and 2. All fifteen months apart.
None planned.
Yet, I wouldn’t trade any of them for anything in the world.
Now the wife wants a planned one. Forget it, I say.
You’ll have an awesome time with your little ones. The shock at first can be overwhelming, but you’ll overcome that with all the love that will invariably spill from your heart. Support your wife. Just when you think you’ve done enough, do a little more.
I’m glad that you seem to be feeling better about the situation now than you were when you first posted. Congratulations.
I dont have any kids of my own yet, but based on what I’ve seen with other people, I concur with those who say it seems like it’s normal to be ambivalent at first. I am quite sure that this surprise will turn out to be a joyful addition to your life.
My youngest sister came 17.5 months behind my brother and 17 years after me. Surprise! She’ll be 11 soon and I know my parents were pretty shocked when my mom first realized she was pregnant, but they warmed up to the idea quickly. Congratulations and good luck.
On the other hand, now I feel totally justified in my paranoia as I am on the Pill AND we use condoms. Not ready yet!
The more I read stories like these, the more suspicious I am about the claims about the effectiveness (or lack thereof) of birth control.
Yes, we have an unexpected child as well. My wife and I talked about having a third, and it was only recently we admitted to each other that we probably would have continued talking about it until the day the doctor snipped my tubes.
Notwithstanding the call I got from his kindergarten teacher today, I’m really, really glad we had him. He’s so much like me in a lot of ways, it’s like watching myself grow up, only I’m here for him in a way my dad wasn’t.
And after the vascetomy, the sex got much better. Afternoon delights! Woo-hoo!
I really don’t want to take this off topic…but most people don’t inform their kids about the pregancy until later - a lot of things can happen (i.e. miscarriage) - not to mention kids have big mouths and the daycare provider might not be the person you want to know yet…so its not uncommon to avoid mentioning it to anyone until the second trimester.
On the other hand, even a two year old knows what a seven month pregnant woman looks like and what that means.
I’ll avoid further commentary, as I don’t think this is the appropriate thread.
If I may, I think astro meant that you need only a little extra soup for the new mouth to feed…
I feel compelled to check in with my surprise baby story. We have two boys, ages 6 and almost-3. We were fine with being done; we thought we WERE done. However, we took advantage of one of those “Parents Night Out” things where they watch a bunch of kids, show 'em movies, etc., while their parents enjoy a rare night out. Well, to make a long story short, we had a Parents Night In, and my wife’s monthly bill never came…I was kind of shocked and had much consternation about having a third child in our little house, etc. That faded in a few days, though. It really turned around when we found out that after two boys, we are expecting a daughter!
So, like the other folks here are telling you, It’s totally normal to have these feelings. Enjoy your new baby!
