I hate laptops! I had a nice long post and since my computer is taking a dirt nap and I’m sneaking on my husbands and not used to it, my stupid thumbs hit something and I lost it.
This reminds me of how my youngest daughter came along. The one difference is she is the youngest of five and I found out at my six week check up after just having a ten and a half pound boy.
I had been trying to nurse my son and was failing horribly and kept telling the nurses and lactation folks that even though it was my first time nursing something just didn’t feel right. I tried everything and just wasn’t able to nurse him even though they kept telling me that everything seemed right. I know that there have been people that can still nurse while pregnant, but being pregnant so soon my body just wasn’t able to feed me, my little music man, and the baby inside.
My husband didn’t deal with the news well and that made for even more stress aside from the fact that we didn’t have the room or money for one more. I know some don’t agree, but I’m of the mind that I was broke and happy with four, I could be broke and happy with five. We did get a little help from the state all of those years ago. I believe that state aid can be a good thing if it’s used as a way to supliment not a way of life. We worked our butts off to be broke and happy.
I made plans to get my tubes tied after she was born and my good friend at the time (hubby’s first wife) joked she was going to sleep in my room after delivery before the surgery so that way there was no chance of me getting pregnant before they could do the surgery.
~hugs~ You can do this! I know there are many Dopers along with myself who will be here for you.
And in the post that went missing because of my stupid thumbs I was writting about an idea that I don’t know if it has been thought of before.
There are a lot of Doper exchanges folks do around here and maybe it wouldn’t be such a bad idea to have a Doper hand me down. Clothes, toys, car seats, unopened baby food or formula. Hand me downs are great within a small family, they are better with a large family like we have here. So many Doper familys to share!
Back on topic, my youngest daughter is now 13 and she is an amazing young lady. I wouldn’t change it for the world. She wasn’t unplanned she just came along a bit earlier than expected. All of my children are amazing.
I guess I don’t have any helpfull advice but just wanting to let you know that one more person has been in that terrifying situation and is here for you if you need an ear or a shoulder however you decide to go with this.
I lurk more than I post but you can PM me or reach me at FaceBook if you do that.
~big hugs from one stressed out mom to another~