i dunno, i have some pointless stuff i must share so i figure this is the place.
im sad…i am 400 miles away from my boyfriend who i am truly in love with and my parents (im still teenager) have a minor qualm about us that involved fining us alone in his room at one in the morning. it wasnt as bad as it could have been…
and now theres no one i can talk to cuz all my friends dont understand my need for joe (my guy) and i cant bring up the topic with my parents, whihc is my fault because i have a lack of ability to show my feeling effectively.
well it feels good to post this, so sorry for taking up your time if you read this…
bye.
Need more details. No, I’m not being a voyeur; it’s just difficult to give advice without knowing more about this. How old are you, and how old is Joe? How do you get along with your parents normally, and was it different before you met Joe? How did you happen to be in his room, and what were you doing? How exactly did your parents react? What do you and Joe normally do together? When did this happen, and why are you 400 miles away from him now?
If you feel you can’t express yourself well, that will almost certainly change if you hang around here for a while.
What she said, HMLorna. In the meantime:
{{{{{{HerMajestyLorna}}}}}}
well, he lives in ny, i live in va. i get along well with my parents, and i always have. we are both 16. my parents like him, they just didnt like finding me in his room late at night. we had been just making out, not anything heavy duty. but i had told my praents i wouldnt spend time alone in his room with him…
my parents then said maybe its better, if you cant respect our rules, to put this relationship on hold. niether joe nor i are willing to do this, becuase its hard enough as it is.
i just need to tell my parents that i need to see joe, and the only reason thats a problem for me is becuase i have a guilt problem. i know i did something wrong(ish), and i feel really bad for it.
anyways,rilchiam and purplebear, thanks for reading and posting. much appreciated.
–Lorna
Sigh You think you have it bad? I’m in Florida, and my boyfriend is 8000 miles away in Israel where there is a war. We are 16 and 17 and my parents don’t think we should be serious like we are. I also don’t know what is going to happen when he gets back. People say that if I’m confident in our love I shouldn’t worry, but the closer it gets to him coming back, the more scared I get of something going wrong.
Lorna, you can e-mail me if you like, if you want to discuss this further.
Hi Lorna,
I’m sure that nothing I can say will “make everything all better” but here goes…
If you and Joe are meant to be, no amount of time or space will change that. You did let your parents down, you can’t change that now but you should be able to talk to them about how you feel.
When I was your age (I can’t believe I said that!) I did some really foolish things for “love”. Please remember that you have your whole life in front of you and it’s amazing how fast things change. Also, EVERYTHING happens for a reason- even if it makes no sense at the time.
Geez, I can’t believe how trite that sounds so…
{{{{{{Lorna}}}}}}}
(email me if you need someone to talk to)
You’re welcome, Lorna. I’ll be back from my trip late on Monday, if you want to talk, email me then, and I’ll answer as soon as I can.
Hope it was comforting to come here and post. I’m sure it will be when you return to a page of wellwishers.
Hope also when you return it will be close enough to reunion time that it won’t still be hurting.
My favorite line, with my long-distance SO, was that I’d be back before she knew it. So I fudged the truth a little bit about when I’d be back (I kinda “forgot” to mention that I rescheduled my last final), and showed up a week early, just as she was walking out of one of her finals. The look on her face was simply beautiful (much like the rest of her)…
So don’t focus on how far away you are, just dream about the day that really isn’t so far away, when you’ll be back together again, in each others arms, making a whole new batch of happy memories. 
to everyone whos posted-
thanks a lot for all your support and everything. awwww, you guys are just great. it made me really happy to think about all of the things you guys said. 
i talked a little to my mom, and im feeling a lot better now that everything isnt all bottled up inside.
well, i still dont know when ill see joe, but for now im working on it. 
youve made me feel a lot better, so thanks again!!!
–Lorna