At the Love and Logic website, in a blurb where they summarize their method, they say that when a kid tries to argue with you, you should simply say “I love you too much to argue,” and repeat this every time they continue the attempt, til they stop trying. I see this expression even referred to by L&L advocates around the net as a “mantra.”
My question is, is that expression really used in L&L in the way I just described, or is the blurb I read far to oversimplified for me to think I have an accurate understanding?
I ask because the practice as I currently understand it seems terrible, almost to the point of horrific. I feel like I’d be destroying my kid’s mind and self-esteem if I did that. A bit melodramatic of me to say that, maybe, but it’s the direction my feelings go in when I think of doing that to my kid…
It feels like I’d be saying “I don’t care about your opinions and I’m going to call that lack of caring ‘love’ to make myself feel better about it.”