Hi SD people
Morally speaking, is love a good excuse for having sexual relations outside of traditional marriage?
Jillena
It’s a good excuse for eating fresh mangoes, that’s for sure. I love fresh mangoes.
Wait, are you thinking that eating fresh mangoes isn’t sinful and doesn’t require excuses?
Well, exactly.
Morally, I don’t think you need any excuse to have sexual relations outside marriage.
Love is an excellent reason for having sex outside of marriage.
But if you’re looking for an excuse, that means you believe people should not have sex outside of marriage. You need to look to your own conscience to decide whether that moral stance is absolute.
Morally speaking, if one is using the term “excuse” in this instance, using normal definitions of “traditional marriage” then at some point a trust (or trusts) has been broken.
Depends on what basis your morality is derived.
Depends on your morals and your definition of “traditional marriage”, I guess…so what definitions are you using?
I assume we’re not talking adultery here. Given that, love is a good excuse. So is lust, so is a beautiful full moon. So long as all parties agree.
And the term “fornication” is so 20th century. Or maybe 19th.
Cheers (-;
Hmmm thankyou Kent Clark.
Care to respond to my question?
I think most definitions of a traditional marriage include sexual fidelity; you’re only supposed to have sex with your spouse. Traditional marriage also implies a commitment to your spouse and a concern for their feelings.
So I’m going to say no. Love you’re feeling for somebody else is not enough justification for breaking the commitment to your spouse and causing them emotional distress.
That’s if it’s a traditional marriage. I accept that some people have non-traditional marriages in which both partners have no problem with emotional and sexual relationship outside of the marriage. That’s fine as long as the people involved are okay with this.
Depends a lot on whether you’re current inside a traditional marriage, I’d think. I’m not, and never have been, so the question is utterly irrelevant to my situation. All my sexual relations are as far outside of traditional marriage as I can get them. I do like being in love though.
I raised my son to take sexual relations seriously for three reasons: put simply, the possibility of pregnancy, STDs, and hurt feelings.
If you aren’t in a traditional marriage (if you are, you should only have sex with your spouse because of the whole “hurt feelings” category) and you’ve taken responsible precautions against unwanted pregnancy and STDs, then love is a terrific reason to have sex.
Mmm does being in love with the person we are coupling with ‘as one’ constitute marriage as in wedded? Kinda like welding makes an object join to another. Maybe where the word wedded comes from is welded!
Mmm, I kinda agree.
No, the word wedded comes from the Old English word weddian, which means to make a pledge. Welded comes from a now archaic well which means to melt metal; when you melted two pieces of metal to attach them, you welled them. The word later became shortened to weld.
Love alone won’t protect you from many of the potential dangers and downsides of “having sexual relations outside of traditional marriage,” like STDs, unwanted pregnancy, or the hurt feelings that can result when one person thinks the sex means one thing while the other thinks it means something entirely different.
Sex can increase the feeling of connectedness or bonding—moreso for some people than for others. This can be a good thing or a bad thing (it can make it harder or more painful to end an unhealthy relationship).
Right ok thanks