when you love someone when do you think it is a good time to get married?
When you’re both financially independant
~or~
when you’re both over 35
whichever comes first 
When you’re aware of what you’re getting into. As long as both people are wide awake about it I don’t think age matters. 16 or 86, go for it.
I agree with Jonathan. Marriage isn’t a light step (I’m currently engaged). I don’t know if I’m qualified yet, but I’d say you should definately begin to think about marriage when, in the middle of a very heated argument, you realize that you still love your SO.
Not until you learn to post in the correct forum.
Off to IMHO.
DrMatrix - General Questions Moderator
Comon Rhum Runner, she’s seems to be new, so be nice.
I’d have to say that a good time to get married is when you can afford the wedding, and you are sure that it is someone you would be happy with the rest of your life. You don’t necessarily have to be financially secure when you get married though. After all, that’s part of the fun I hear!
If you are seriously relying on the advice of others as to whether or not you should marry, don’t do it! - not so much that advice given will be bad; most of it will probably be quite good, but it’s your life and you have to live with the consequences of your actions and decisions. Wait until you(and your partner, obviously) are sure.
I don’t know … it’s a very good question.
I’ll have to go ask my wife.
Only if the other person has more, materially, than you.
How long have you been dating? If it’s less than a year or two, I’d probably wait.
Remember that there’s very little reason to hurry up and get married. If you’re not sure, wait a bit longer. It’s great to be in love and want to celebrate that, but that alone is not reason enough to get married. Knowing that you are compatible in daily, mundane activities for the long term is more important than being giddy at the start of a relationship, when you’re having dinner by candlelight and walks on the beach in the moonlight. For many people, the best way to know that you’ll be compatible long term is to date for several years.
Some people love each other deeply but never get married.
When the sun is shining nicely on your face when do you think it is a good time to pluck all the hairs off the body of your poodle? Non sequitur!
You’re making assumptions that definitely do not apply in my case and which you should question in yours (if only for the sake of taking a good look before you leap).
Marriage was not invented to celebrate or protect love. Marriage is an institution that came into being to control and channel sexuality and reproduction for the benefit of the social order, with very very little interest or concern for how it would affect individuals and their happiness. And in the modern era it is no longer compulsory, so the only reason to do it is tradition and tradition-related belief systems such as conventional religion.
When did you decide that you wanted to be a married person? For what reasons? Do you wish to hold property in common? Enter into a legally binding contract akin to incorporating except that you are not generally instructed to read the terms before signing? Or do you just have a jones for wedding ceremonies, white gowns & veils, and stuff like that?
There are many many people who do get married and have a good time in a solid relationship that survives marriage. (There are many others whose wonderful relationship got destroyed by marriage, and many who found out after the fact that they simply didn’t find anything pleasant about the institution).
If you investigate and discuss it with your partner and both of you, after considering and rejecting other options available to you, decide that you’d like to go with Choice A (Marriage), more power and many blessings to you. But don’t do it automatically and blindly.
I love Cindy Crawford, now is the time for her to marry me
Neeeeeeeeeeeeeever gonna happen bud.
AHunter3, may I use that for my sig?
Sure, but I’m not responsible for the followup questions!
Cool. Thanks. I’ll refer all followup questions to you, then. Great.
ducks and runs off
There’s no hard-and-fast rules for when it’s right to get married, but I’ve got a few rules of thumb I’ve worked out over the years.
If you can’t feed, maintain, and support yourselves individually, you shouldn’t get married.
Age isn’t really a factor in most cases. However, if you get all bent out of shape when people bring up your age, you’re probably too immature to get married.
If you can look ten years down the road and ever see yourself without this person, you should hold off on getting married.
If you would explode before you would belch or fart in front of someone, you’re not intimate enough to be talking marriage.
If the two of you genuinely want incompatible things from life (kids vs. none, 80 hour work weeks and lots of money vs. low stress and low pay, etc.), then getting married is a bad idea.
If you can’t have frank discussions about anything and everything, you shouldn’t get married.
If you can crawl into bed, put your icy feet on someone, and discuss the state of your innards and that person snuggles you a little closer, you’re already married. You just haven’t made it legal yet.
Basically, when the time is right, you won’t have to ask for other people’s opinions. You’ll know.