Oh, I don’t think university has to be “hell” to get that. I thought it was one of those extremely common dreams, like discovering you are naked or inadequately dressed in public or whatever. Hell, I’ve had dreams that sent me back to actual SCHOOL, which was scary until I remembered (in the dream) “oh, hang on, I’ve done all this and passed it many years ago”.
Pchts, I’ve been in love/lust once and it wasn’t all it’s cracked up to be at all. I did verify that smoke does get in your eyes, though.
I’d rather love and at the same time be in lust with the same object of affection, but with no smoke involved if that’s all right.
Well for me, school wouldn’t be so bad. I basically coasted through school and got just enough GCSEs (without really trying) to get into College.
College was similar (though I actually did quite well)
But then came Uni - Difficult due to lack of motivation (not lack of ability) and I really really didn’t want the shame of failing. So I did just enough to pass, but it wasn’t easy (again - no motivation)
Do you believe in love? The kind that lasts forever? It is not a very interesting question.
It’s a good question.
I do believe in Love that lasts forever. I just wish I was in it with someone.
I say it is. Is there a bond that can hold people through what ever life throws at them?
The nihilist in me says no, not even protons are stable forever, but I’d like to believe. I think the belief in love is part of the human experience. The thing of it is though is it isn’t the love that’s unstable. It’s human frailties that are.
Suspicion, selfishness, ect. are natural human traits.
What makes love work is when both parties love, and respect each other, and can communicate when something isn’t right and deal with it together. That keeps it stable. Absent any of those elements and it’ll either fall apart or become dysfunctional.
At least that’s my experience on it.
As for “in love”. That fuzzy warm euphoria you get from the person you’re “in love” with. That’s endorphins, or dopamine or something. I forget what. It’s some chemical your brain releases to addict you to the person. It’s what causes alot of the nastiness that gets pinned on love. It can make that person more a drug and less a person. It’s what makes people treat each other like property.
It’s a magic feeling, but it’s a drug and drugs are meh.
The kind of love I want to believe in is more pure. It’s a connection of trust and openness. Of happiness in sharing the world and life. Of closeness and togetherness when the world isn’t so happy.
I am in love, the kind that lasts forever. It happened at random, when I was least expecting it. We’ve been together for 19 years and I still look forward to our daily time together; after we put the kids to bed of course, although it’s fun smooching and making them go “ewwwww!”
Sometimes I wish I could hit the lottery, but a little voice inside me says “you already have”. That’s what it’s like for me.
I’ve always liked sluts and I’ve fallen in love with many of them.