Lust4Life: If you want to accuse me of dishonesty, bring it here.

[Zabali_Clawbane]

@Dr.Drake

Don’t be silly. I have never made any secret of the fact that I live in Canada. If you look at my posting history, you’ll find references to my British husband and to the years we lived in Britain. If I’ve made an argument you disagree with, rebut it. If you have a specific accusation against me personally, please take it to the Pit. Otherwise, move on.

Here’s a post that backs up what she says.

@Dr.Drake

Like Hilarity N. Suze, we had a joint account but different styles drove us crazy. I keep track of pennies, he rounds. I believe in keeping a register, he thinks, “why bother when you can always check online?” In general, though, it’s not a source of tension between us. Lack of money full stop, and earning disparity (me: all vs. him: none) is a HUGE source of tension, but since what can be done is being done we just have to live with it for now.

We each have multiple accounts, here in Canada (both) and Britain (both) and the US (just me) as well as debts. <snip>

Here’s another. That wasn’t hard. L4L, you were wrong about Dr. Drake’s claims being suspect.

@Dr.Drake

That’s right. We met when I was on a work visa in Britain; I returned to the U.S., and we went through an elaborate process to get him a visa, creating a company to employ him. This was a headache and a half and I don’t recommend anyone do this: over half the money he earned went to company overhead (payroll taxes, lawyers, accountants, etc.). Running a company together, especially if it’s out of necessity rather than a dream, puts a strain on a relationship. Anyway, that visa had an expiration date (the end of next month), and there was no path to permanent residency.

I happen to be a dual citizen with Canada through my mother, though I’ve never lived here and she’s been in the US for 50 years. I sponsored him for immigration to Canada. We also had the option of going to Britain, so we were really lucky to have multiple options. Most people in our situation don’t have any.