Magical Sky Pixie, Etc. -- Y'all Know You're Being Deeply Insulting, Right?

*Where exactly do you draw the line between beliefs which belong to a superior category and can legitimately compared to your own, and inferior beliefs which can’t be compared to your own hence are insulting? I already asked this question several times, and I’m still waiting for a response. *

Here are 2 approaches:
Yosemite said: *when a number of reasonably respected people express a dislike for a certain word, make some reasonable attempt to explain why, it’s good manners to honor their request. Even if you think they are overreacting a bit. *

That means very small groups (such as those who believe in water sprites) get the shaft as do those who refuse (or are unable) to provide a reasonable basis for why they are offended.

I think it addresses your concern, though it is not my preferred criteria.

My approach is to 1st ask whether the term offends. If the answer is “yes”, the term is compared to its alternatives on the basis of a set of criteria:

  1. One might ask oneself whether the derision is complementing a detailed argument or substituting for it.
  2. One also might inquire whether the derision is gratuitous.
  3. And one might ask whether it is counter-productive.
  4. If the sole function of a phrase is a bit of name calling, then it is probably not especially constructive. With some exceptions, admittedly.

Note that under my criteria the views in question can be religious, political, medical or whatever.

As MSP seems to merely insult (and provide little illumination, unlike IPU used appropriately) it fails my criteria in most situations IMO. At the same time, I trust there are uses of it that do not offend. As Guin noted, it’s the way that you use it.

Mr. Visible
If I may channel Jodi for a moment, I think she might humbly request that you respect those who believe in astrology, phrenology, The Church of Satan etc. because they are human beings. You don’t have to respect the beliefs themselves.

Yup, flowbark. You’re exactly right. That’s what I’ve been saying all along. I’ve never argued for the right to disrespect anyone, no matter what their views. But I refuse to give up the right to be critical, in whatever fashion suits the context, of beliefs.

I agree with that. There are probably instances where any term (even “knocked up”) would not be insulting. It is all in the way you use it.

However, when someone asks, it’s usually polite to stop using an “offensive” (to them) term, especially when there are other terms that will relay the same message without being deemed “offensive”. Even if one person asks—you just stop using it around them.

To continue to insist on using a term, (especially when a number of people have told you that they find it rude) is, in my opinion, jerkish behavior. Especially when you are perfectly capable of phrasing your message in a way that will get the same message across (disagreement, disapproval) without using the “hotbutton” word.

But, by all means, go ahead and use whatever words or terms you desire. And expect that others will judge you accordingly. They will know that you were asked to stop, they will know that you know you are using the word with the full knowledge that it ruffles their feathers, yet you choose to use the word anyway. They will KNOW all of this, and they will judge you accordingly. They may very likely deduce that you don’t give a shit about their feelings. They’re entitled to make that deduction, based on your behavior. That’s how it works. I assume you don’t have a problem with certain people coming to the conclusion that you don’t give a shit about their feelings, then.

Yosemitebabe, thanks for the permission. I will certainly feel free to debate issues in the style which I feel the context of the debate, and the validity of the beliefs involved, warrants. I hope that, when I do so, I will be judged on the quality of the arguments I make.

I’m relieved that you have acceded to my position; it warms my heart to know that, after all the argument on this thread, you’ve come around to my way of thinking. To admit that, no matter how closely held a person’s belief system is, or how entrenched in society it might be, no belief system deserves to be immune from ridicule is a big step for a lot of people, and I admire the grace and charm with which you’ve made this advance.

I look forward to future conversations with you, in which I look forward to seeing the same enlightened attitude, to wit: when I debate, I wish to be judged on the merits of my points, and not on whether I obey some vaguely defined code of etiquette.

Your participation here has restored a small chunk of my faith in humanity. Thanks.

MrV

I’m going to spot postiong on this thread (except if something really new pop up) since I said pretty much all I could have to say. However, a last response before :

Hypocrites would perhaps be a better word?
Anyway, **Scotticher ** you can very easily prove me wrong. Please point to me the pit threads were you voiced your dissaproval of the disparaging comments made on the SDMB about say :

-The Mormon religion
-Belief in psy powers
-Communism

Scotti doesn’t visit the pit that often in the first place, Clair. What makes you think she’s seen them? Hell, I readthe pit with a fair amount of regularity and I don’t think I’ve seen half the threads on any one of those subjects, let alone had the time to post to half of them.

Beside which, instead of replying on the board she could have emailed someone, which (unless note were made of it on the board or otherwise) nobody here would know about, and which might shield the fact that she had been talking at great length with a number of people who vehemently disrespected people based on their community or mormon or psychic beliefs.

see: community
replace with:communist

The human brain can take in only so many pit and GD posts on any given day …

And, like I already said, when you deliberately use a term that others have already told you that they find offensive, they will judge you accordingly. They’ll think you don’t respect them. They think you’re deliberately showing them that you don’t give a shit. Glad you are understanding the consequences of your attitude, and of the words you choose.

But by all means, use any words or phrases you want. No one here ever said that you couldn’t.

“Your” way of thinking? My dear fellow, you really are quite amusing.

I’m glad you find me to be so. As I’ve stated, I’m quite all right with people laughing at me. If only your god was as mature…

I didn’t mean disparaging comments made in the pit. But pit threads like this one criticizing disparaging comments made on other boards, like in GD, or GQ, for instance. Since he’s equally concerned with disparaging comments made about any belief system, I assume that like everybody else similarily concerned, he voiced his dissaproval…

That’s possible. But do you honestly believe that most people who have posted in this thread because they were upset about the MSP thing went secretely (e-mail, etc…) to great length to make people know their disrespect for communism/LDS/psychics was offensive and unnaceptable? Honestly?

It’s “football, meat pies, kangaroos and Holden cars”, damn it - can’t you Merkins get ANYthing RIGHT? :smiley:

Believe it or not clair, it’s fairly common for members of this community to send emails to other members clarifying their position or intention if they think their posts might have left a wrong impression.

It’s called “giving a fuck” - you might like to try it some time.

This is not my question. I’m not refering to people clarifying their own position. But to people voicing their dissaproval of criticisms of communism, psychics, etc…made by other posters and telling them how offensive their criticisms are and how necessary it is for a decent person to avoid any offending comment on the SDMB.

clair, no-one said your criticisms of Christianity or other religions are offensive. Right now, you sound to me like the white person who bitches because the word "nigger’ is forbidden to them; or the straight person who bitches because their use of the word “faggot” would be perceived as offensive.

You choose to use words you know to be offensive in your criticism of viewpoints and beliefs with which you don’t agree. Don’t be surprised when people grant your opinions (even if they hold the same basic beliefs as you do) the same respect they would give a KKK member who throws the word “nigger” around.

We really need a “Godwin’s law” to cover the situation in which the poster who proclaims “I don’t care if you’re offended, I’m still going to keep saying it to demonstrate the fact that I have the inherent right to be offensive” loses the argument by default.

And this, children, is why our teachers in high school always used to make us argue for the side which we didn’t support in debates…

Going back a couple of pages (goodness this thread has traveled far and wide and quickly) to the question of whether, to an outside observer, belief in God is comparable to belief in fairies/unicorns/etc., I will once again attempt to argue that they are not necessarily comparable.

Suppose someone tells me that they believe that unicorns exist, can be seen and physically interacted with, can be tamed by human virgins, and can magically cure poison with their horns. (Note: if one is going to be discussing whether or not something exists, one really ought to define it as clearly as possible, else the discussion will be meaningless). I will be very skeptical. I do not believe any such creatures have ever existed. I can’t prove it, but I don’t believe it at all. Why?

Because the most basic thing that I do know about the universe is that it is predictable and rational. It is possible to observe phenomena and learn from them. It is possible to perform experiments and make predictions, and those predictions will often be valid. There are rules that govern the phenomena I have observed inside the universe. Unicorns (as defined above) do not fit into those rules. In fact, they would require many of the rules that I think I know (or that science thinks it knows) to be wrong. Which doesn’t mean that it’s impossible that they exist, just that it is very unlikely, and thus, I don’t believe in them. (Of course, if someone was just talking about something that looked like a horse but had only one horn and no supernatural powers, that would be far more plausible.)

So what about God? If someone tells me that they believe in a guy on a throne up above the clouds who listens to prayers and sends gay people to hell, then my reaction is pretty much the same as the above. But what if someone just believes in some incredibly powerful and somewhat conscious force that created the universe and now observes the universe? Such a thing is totally outside the universe. None of the observations and laws and rules and patterns that make up my life’s experience say anything about things outside the universe. So the only even remotely relevant thought process that I can go through is to apply occam’s razor and say that I see a simpler explanation. Thus, I don’t believe in God. But it’s for very different, and much less compelling, reasons than my not believing in unicorns.
Fair enough?

As to the main thrust of the thread (using the term Magical Sky Pixies), I think both Jodi and MrVisible (being the two primary antagonists) have reasonable points. I think the primary factor governing how appropriate it is to talk about MSPs, and which would factor into whether I myself would ever use that turn of phrase, is what the discussion in question is about. If someone is discussing Opera, for instance, and happens to mention that they are Christian, I think it would be rude to barge in and ask them why they believe in MSPs. It shouldn’t be illegal to do so, mind you, but it would be rude.

On the other hand, if an actual full-on religious debate is going on, and (say) clairobscur wants to make the point that he finds belief in God to be no more plausible than belief in fairies, I think it is totally reasonable for him to talk about MSPs. Analogously, it would be very rude for someone who was a vegetarian to constantly refer to non-vegetarians as, say, “bambi-killers”. But in the context of an actual debate over the merits of vegetarianism, if someone wanted to use that phrase to drive home that meat eaters actually eat animals even if they don’t like to think about it, I think that would be quite reasonable

I can’t speak for others, but I “demand” no respect for my “religion”. I ask for respect for the object of my love.

Wow. I gotta check out the Pit more often. I’ve really enjoyed reading this thread, and I’ve been impressed by many posts on both sides of the issue. In no particular order, I’ve really enjoyed the posts of Jodi, clairobscur, MrVisible, jinwicked, pldennison, Steve Wright, and Polycarp. All have made excellent points, and made them well. I also want to thank Guinastasia and peasea for touching on a favorite point of mine, that no one chooses their beliefs.

I have to admit that I haven’t really paid that much attention to your posts before, MrVisible, but based on this thread, I like you. You’re articulate and level-headed, and I pretty much agree with everything you’ve said. Except, oddly enough, the main point. In this case, I’m going to have to come down on the side of the OP.

I don’t believe in God, or any supernatural being. Religious beliefs seem pretty preposterous to me, and I have probably made some derisive remarks about them over in GD. (I don’t think I’ve ever used “MSP,” but I did say something once about someone’s “invisible friend.”) But I honestly don’t have any desire to offend anyone, even if I do consider them deluded in this regard. Anyway, I don’t want to feed the misconception that we atheists are nasty, offensive people.

I call ethnic and other minorities whatever they ask to be called, out of respect. I capitalize the names of deities even if I don’t believe in them. I take off my shoes when I go into a temple. I’m quiet when people are praying. Maybe I’m caving into PC pressure, but really, these are pretty small things. It’s a lot to keep up with, especially since what’s considered okay today may be offensive tomorrow, but hey, it’s a complicated world.

So, for what it’s worth, Jodi, I for one will try to remember not to use such terms in the future. At least unless I’m attacked outright by a rabid religious person, which is admittedly pretty rare, or in the presence of those I know won’t be offended.

No offense, MrV. I still think you’re all right.

Just a slight hi-jack, but I have this terrible knee-jerk reaction against so-called Christians as Cardinal.

In your first reply you state :

*Me neither. I have problems accepting the Bible as pure, Western-style history in some parts. Some people don’t. Personally, I find that most of the people who don’t seriously question these parts haven’t really thought about it much, and it bugs me. *

Then in your next reply you state :

*Of course it matters whether the New Testament is an accurate historical document. It’s disingenuous to imply that it’s not. The entire belief system of the Christian church depends on the NT being an accurate history. Atheists often admit as much when they accuse it of not being accurate. They have a good point. If Luke can’t get straight who was procounsel of Jeruselem (or whatever) at the time, then how do we trust him on things that sound so weird? *
So what do you want : is the bible your leadway or just the parts that you like.
This is my pet-beef with the large part of the American Christian population, they twist and turn themselves into all corners to disprove the fact that the bible is filled with contradictions. Now you hear a lot of christians saying : “Well, I don’t necesarrily believe in the bible”. Well, if not, you are NOT a christian. You have created your own mumbo-jumbo new-age form of christianity which has no more merit than the fairytales of Mr. Grimm or Andersen. So in a way you are performing a sin against your own religion.

I have respect for people believing in their own thing, choosing the right things and sacrificing them for their believes. I have no respect whatsoever for somebody who hides behind a silly, old book that has been around shorter than most other religions.
Gott ist tod.