I am reading a book by Paul Feig, the creator of Freaks and Geeks, called Kick Me: Adventures in Adolescence, in which he claims he discovered masturbation at age seven, after a rope-climbing exercise in gym class. I know babies have been born with erections and that toddlers and young boys touch themselves, but I didn’t think boys actually masturbated to the point of ejaculation until maybe age 12 or so. So, male Dopers:
How old were you when you started masturbating to the point of ejaculation?
Supposing you had had no other demands on your time (school, activities, chores, work) and the privacy to pleasure yourself any old time, how often do you estimate you could have done so (per week, day, hour, whatever applies to you)?
Assuming the frequency changed over time, how did it change from whenever you began to about age 25?
Older than 7, I was in my mid teens. A late bloomer I guess.
When I was a teenager? Maybe 3-5 times a day depending on mood. I don’t agree with the idea that men are all sex obsessed. When we get obsessed we masturbate then forget about it for a while. As Doug stanhope would say, treat it like the medical condition it is so you can get it over with and go back to life. I don’t masturbate because I enjoy it, I do it because of habit and to get it out of the way.
I was 11 the first time I masturbated to completion. It felt so good that I rubbed my penis raw doing it eight more times in one day.
At least 3 times a day.
It changed at age thirteen when a (slightly) older neighbor introduced me to actual sex. After that, I just used masturbation if she wasn’t available or interested.
Even now, at 46, I now consider masturbation to be a release like a morning pee or a good poo; it’s just a release.
I did it mostly to get it over with and go back to whatever I was doing before. Most, but not all, of the time I found it to be annoying. I stopped it over a decade ago.
Not sure why ejaculation is your consideration. I masturbated from around age 7 onwards and had orgasms, but ejaculations didn’t happen until puberty.
An average of maybe 1.5 times per day, under those circumstances, but when I was younger I didn’t get sore from it as much as I do as a middle-aged wanker.
Age 12 the first time, maybe twice a day until I got a regular girlfriend that put out. I don’t consider it masterbating without orgasm, just my opinion.
Not every day, and certainly no more than once a day. (Okay, on really rare days, I can manage twice. That happens maybe twice a year. Also, sometimes there are “dry spells” of a week or two.) Overall, it averages around once every two or three days, pretty much.
I was either 10 or 11. I’d played with myself, pretending like it was joystick, but didn’t know about ejaculation until I read about it in a book. The book was one of those fundamnetalist Christian anti-masturbation books, but said they’d go ahead and discuss it because everyone reading the book would already know about it. I assumed I was too young, but got bored one day when I was alone. It took me an hour, but I figured it out.
At first I could manage maybe once a day, then twice a day, and finally maxed out at 3 times a day. The ability was still there at 25, but a few years later it started declining. Now I’m pretty sure I could do it more often, but I choose not to. It feels better that way. Plus the part afterwards is often a letdown, kinda a crash.
Started doing it til orgasm around 13 but nothing came out for about a year.
Could go 7-8 times, especially that first summer when I had 10-12 hours per day to myself. Definitely caused some minor injuries. typically 2-3 per day.
From 19-22 or so I had a lot of sex, so masturbated less- a couple times a week. Picked back up 22-25 and a couple years after I got married at 27.
I read some survey the other day that said somewhere around 20% of men had never masturbated. Found it hard to believe, even the “not in the last year” results. I couldn’t imagine going a year, even if I had sex at least daily.
Oh dear. I can’t believe I’m responding to this post, but in the name of fighting ignorance…
1a. Started about age 6 or 7; to orgasm but no ejaculation, obviously.
1b. First ejaculation was probably around 13, and I can still clearly remember being surprised
2. In my teens, it was probably around twice a day, on average, though only very rarely less than once a day. I think my record was 8 in a day, but that was hard (snerk) work. Mornings and evenings were the standard routine.
3. That average has dropped steadily through my 20s and early 30s to about 2-3 times a week now, partly because I started having sex, but partly also coming down from the extreme hormonal excesses of puberty. If I wasn’t having any sex, I’d probably go back to about 4-5 times a week.
I find it amusing and somewhat surprising that people really remember the age they were when things like this first happened. Back in those days I just lived in the moment, and never thought to myself “now remember this day for the rest of your life; you were years old the first time you did this!”
Anyhoo, I remember getting erections at a young age, probably 6-8 or so, and playing with it because it felt good. The first time I experienced the nirvana/horror of something shooting out of it, I was probably older than 10, maybe 11-13. Once I realized what I was actually doing, I first experienced the crippling struggle of doing something that made me feel so good, yet my religion taught me was absolutely forbidden. So if it wasn’t for the near-paralyzing guilt, I probably could have pounded out between 5-10 wads a day. As it was, I probably limited myself to twice a day; one before getting out of bed, one to help me sleep at night.
That pace didn’t drop off much for the next 10 years. In any given week, I probably spanked it 10-12 times on average.
These days, it’s a key part of the sexual relationship I share with my wife. One or the other of us will do it once or twice a week and text the other about it, which is an invitation for a reciprocal text.
1) How old were you when you started masturbating to the point of ejaculation?
I was 6 when I first started regularly masturbating to orgasm - not ejaculation, but only because few 6 year olds can ejaculate. I think I was 10 or 11 when ejaculation became part of the deal.
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2) Supposing you had had no other demands on your time (school, activities, chores, work) and the privacy to pleasure yourself any old time, how often do you estimate you could have done so (per week, day, hour, whatever applies to you)?*
Probably once or twice a day.
3) Assuming the frequency changed over time, how did it change from whenever you began to about age 25?
Who says it’s changed?
Nothing until 13. I was taking a bath, and discovered that it felt good when I was cleaning myself with a bar of Ivory soap (At that point I was 99-44/100% pure). I had an orgasm which produced a large drop of semen. I thought it was pus, and assumed I had caught something. That didn’t stop me from doing it again.
In my teens, once in the morning, once at night.
Throughout adulthood: 1/day, until I discovered anonymous recreational sex. Then, I either masturbated 1/day, or not at all, if I was having sex with others instead. After meeting my partner in 1987, lots of sex, but only masturbate when he’s out of town. This is the case even now, at 68. And with the right technique, erections are unnecessary.
Would it be too gross, graphic, or gratuitous for you to give a hint here on what is the right technique? I seem to be old-fashioned, and until an erection develops, the fun doesn’t start.
