This is excellent advice - what you say about other people reflects more on you than it does the other people. I wish gossips would learn this lesson.
No kidding- like it’s a victimless crime or something. It’s not!
And yes to all- I GET the irony that I’m bitching about her bitching. I get it. But the point is I’m actually upset about something she did, not coming here and ranting about what a big ass she has. It’s possible that there’s a difference.
But that doesn’t solve the problem. Tell her what’s bothering you or else she won’t stop.