My wife sleeps in a seperate bedroom. Because of some sexual child abuse, she has nightmares, seizures, you name it. She started by gradually going to bed later and later, not wanting to go to sleep, and sleeping on the sofa. We haven’t slept in the same bed for probably a year or so now.
I don’t snore anymore because of my CPAP machine. It sounds like there’s a lot of people in here who should look into one!
I think it’s a great idea to have separate bedrooms. When I moved in with my (now-ex)boyfriend, I had a really hard time getting adjusted to sharing a bed with someone else all the time (even though it was a king-size bed!) It takes me a really long time to get to sleep and I do a lot of tossing and turning, which kept him up and made him miserable. And I found that it was harder for me to get to sleep when he was there because I could not spread out as much–I have to be completely spread out in order to sleep. It’s not that I didn’t love him, or totally want to be with him 24-7, because I did! It really broke my heart that I could not sleep well with him. And it didn’t help that I worked nights and we were on opposite schedules. So eventually I would sleep on the couch because I didn’t want to wake him up in the middle of the night. Of course I was always embarrassed about this and never wanted any of our friends to know about it because they might think we were strange or that something was wrong.
Well, now that I live by myself (with the king-size bed) I am sleeping so much better that I have a place all to myself. I think it really comes down to having your own space, it makes me much more comfortable and it’s therefore easier to sleep.
Also, my aunt and uncle have separate rooms. They are happily married. They just wanted their own space.
I take my sleep very seriously–sleeping alone does not mean you don’t love someone! It just means you’re tired and need to be alone and get some rest! Although I really wish I wasn’t such a weird sleeper and could sleep soundly with my loved one.