I always hear stories about how as soon as someone get’s married, they stop having sex. Say it ain’t so! So I was wonder, how often do you and your spouse “do it” on a monthly basis.
Depends, but for the most part marriage doesn’t impact the love life as much as Baby does. Trust me on this.
It’s kind of odd. When your single, you try to score as often as possible because you think (or act) like it’ll never happen again, but when your married the urgency decreases dramatically - I mean, you’re married, everybody knows and nobody cares, and the potential for lovin’ is always there.
But to answer your question, it depends. 
My wife and I still have sex about the same amount. We’ve been married since May. We don’t have kids yet, so they don’t even come into the equation. There are some special sexual advantages with marriage. Pretty much sleeping together is one of the big ones. Its always availiable.
Me and my ex-wife did it about twice a week on average. We pretty much kept that up even when our marriage started to fall apart. We even did the “funky” a few times after our divorce. But we eventually decided that its probably not a good idea to keep that up; I mean with the divorce and all. I think in my case my ex-wife and I had pretty good chemistry when it came to sex. Too bad are personas didn’t match as well.
Due to our work schedules, Me and Mrs Seven average about twice a week. We’ve been married 6 years now and together for 11.
The sex only gets better because we are more relaxed with each other. She doesn’t fight about putting on the donkey suit and singing “skip to my loo” any… whoops, said too much.
I was extremely sexually promiscuous as an undergrad and spent an inadvertant amount of time trying to “score again.” I must say that this practice has really (pardon the pun) screwed up my married sex life. As John T stated above, it’s almost too easy, reminding me of the bit in Monty Python’s “The Meaning of Life” where the Protestant couple is allowed to use contraception but never has sex.
When you’re married sex is always available, you can (theoretically) have it at any time and no one is going to tell you it’s wrong. It’s just too easy for one who’s motto once was “the fun’s in the hunt” and unless you and your spouse are both sexually adventuresome it can get predictable and boring. Add in the fact that you’re older, more likely to be tired and more strapped for time (especially if your spouse lives on the other side of the day) and you have a formula for reduced sexual frequency.
I can only imagine that having a child or living with a relative would have an even greater chilling effect.
Uh…maybe 4-6 times a week. We’ve been married over a year, together nearly 4, and don’t have any kids. But then, we’re really young, and I’m pretty spoiled re:orgasms, so I’ve come to expect them. (Not that he’s not spoiled.)
Not often enough. We have kids, we work together (good little passion-killer right there) and there ain’t enough time in the day, it seems.
It’s true about being relaxed with each other though. After 7 years together, 2 married, when we do get the groove on, it’s ehhhhhhk-sellent. 
Yup, the kid factor messes things up for a bit. Young kids are exhausting and there were a few years where I just didn’t feel sexy. Leaking breasts, pregnancy belly, and not feeling the least bit attractive are definitely mood killers.
But then the kids grew up a bit, we were able to get some sleep, and things gradually went back to normal. It’s not as often as when we were dating, true, but after 13 years it’s still pretty damn good.
after 20+ years of marriage, now that the kids are pretty much not a hindrance, it runs 2-3 times a week.
We’ve found it gets better with practice!
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Married 14 years (well, it’ll be 14 years in about 2 weeks), together 18, three kids, ages 15, 11, and 2. It seems to run in peaks and valleys, but I’d say averages 3 times per week. I guess we’re lucky 'cause we still really like each other!
If we realize it’s been at least a week, we make a point of setting aside some time for it, so definitely at least once a week. I’d say usually two or three times a week, though.
For the record, we had a baby nine months ago. After the six-week postpartum moratorium, we were a little slow getting back into the saddle at first, but now things are pretty much back to the way they were pre-birth. We make the most of Whatsit Jr.'s twice-daily naptime.
Totally depends on both of your moods. When everything’s going as smoothly as it can, we’re good for 3-4 or more times a week. When one or the other of us are stressed over soemthing like work or family, once a week or less.
I don’t want to depress you (or myself) with the numbers, but let me tell you that I would pull the average way, way way down. But I blame having a kid more than being married. I’m exhausted most of the time and I don’t feel sexy. I also don’t want another pregnancy. Let’s add in the anti-orgasmic and libido-crushing effects of my anti-depressants. It isn’t a pretty picture.
This is something we are actively working on.
Well, since we waited until marriage, our frequency has gone way up since the wedding. 
I agree that it’s the kids that put a damper on things. The toddler in the house, not to mention the current one on the way. (Oh, and the extra sub-contracting that keeps mr. genie up till 2am…) However, they will grow up after a while. And I recommed TiVo! We got it so that Sesame Street can be shown on demand at 7am while Mom and Dad snuggle for awhile…
I guess maybe 10-12 times a month. A lot of it depends on circumstances. Kids, we have two - ages 1 and 3, are not particularly conducive to the 2-hour lovemaking sessions. Their timing is unbelievable. They can sleep through our neighbor’s dogs barking uncontrollably at 2am but one peep out of either one of us during sex and…BAM…they’re awake, crying for Mommy or Daddy, they need a drink of water, etc. They have yet to say anything about Mommy bringing them a drink while wearing lingerie but I know the time is coming!
Less with the spouse, more with the mistress. Spouse reports same.
do what???
I’m with genie – we waited till we were married, so the frequency skyrocketed. 
We’ve been married a year now, and we probably average 1-2 times per week. Mr. stargazer works one job at 5am, so we have to go to bed – to sleep, I mean – early, and he also works in a theatre, which means he’s often gone at night. This makes things difficult, especially because both of us usually need sleep more than we need sex. That said, there are times when it’s 4 times a week. We’re both happy with the way things work out, which I think is most important. If one partner is feeling ignored or pestered, that’s when you’ve got problems.