I went to a political fundraiser thing with a gay friend, and when they checked us in, they found my name on their data, and signed him in as Mr MyName. Neither of us corrected that, because we both suspected it meant he wasn’t going to get on another mailing list. 
(We discussed it later, away from the checker-in-person.)
My wife felt that switching everything back to her maiden name after her divorce was a sufficiently large pain in the ass that she had no desire to do it again. There wasn’t a need for a discussion when she decided to keep her name after marrying me. If we were of an age where children might have been a possibility then there might have been a discussion. She did change her name on Facebook
Yeah, it’s a pain, and the older you are and the more stuff you have out there, the more of a pain it is. I won’t be changing my name again. Not if i get divorced, not if i get remarried, … Only if i end up in witness protection.
At least in that case, they get all your documents for you!
I’ve always been scrupulous about changing forms of identification to match my legal name. I did it the first time I married and took my husband’s last name. No problems with the first change. This was in the mid-80s.
I kept Hubby #1’s name until I married a second time, 18 years later. Then it got dicier.
This was in the early 2000s. I went to the Social Security office and completed everything required to change to my second married name, then headed over to the DMV to do the same. Whereupon my old driver’s license with picture was confiscated and I was given a “temporary” license (slip of paper) that was meant to suffice as official ID until the new driver’s license could issue. The problem was, the new license wouldn’t issue until DMV could verify my new married name with Social Security. It took more than 3 months. This was during a time when paper checks were still in use as a conventional form of payment for lots of places – provided you could show a photo ID. What a pain!
Good thing I still had my passport. I’ve kept my passports continuously current for more than 45 years.
Once I finally had the new Social Security card and driver’s license, I got my passport changed, too.
The really stupid thing is, many years before my second husband and I met and he was young 'n dumb, he took the last name of another woman he loved. Went through the formal name change and everything. They broke up, but he never changed it back to his family name.
So now I have the last name of some woman I’ve never met that came from who-knows-where. I’m sticking with it, though, because I’m never going through the BS of another name change again!
My identifying documents all match. Social Security card, Real ID driver’s license which I got several years ago, and current passport. I have certified copies of all vital records: Birth certificate, marriage certificates, divorce decree from Hubby #1, formal name change of late Hubby #2, late husband’s death certificate.
Yeesh!
I had issues with credit cards after my second husband died, because even though it was my credit rating that got him the cards (he was from Australia and of course had no American credit rating) and I was the secondary listed on the cards, they canceled the jointly-held cards and required me to reapply as a solo. I got the new cards, but it was a shock to have cards summarily closed by the banks right after my husband had just died. And I mean, they locked those cards right now. It was very disconcerting.
No more name changes for me, ever.
Wow. That sounds really - unusual.
Wife called Discover. Spoke w/ a supervisor who said he could see what happened and would do what needed to be done. That it was an artifact from decades ago, but could be readily corrected. Thanked her for having a card since 87. A week later she got a voicemail from him saying it isn’t going to be that easy… 
I was surprised when every young woman I know ( wtih the exception of my daughter) changed her name when they got married. It was apparetnly more common not to change names around the time I got married in the 80s.
I didn’t change my name for any reason - not legally, not socially, not professionally. ( I will answer to Husband’s last name socially, but I never use it myself except sometimes for the return address on Christmas cards).
Everything we did jointly has his name first - I understand why the house deed says " Husband and Doreen, his wife." but I’m annoyed that there was no option for it to be “Doreen, and Husband, her husband”. Bank accounts that we opened together way back when have his name first , even the ones we opened before we got married. Accounts I opened in my name more recently generally won’t allow me to add his name as a joint owner - they will only list him as “pay on death” or “transfer on death” , which is different from joint ownership.
There’s no "Ms"or “Mrs” on any accounts, just like my husband doesn’t have “Mr” on any of his.
What got my wife’s attention was a service rep’s comment that according to Discover, “Mrs” was not simply an “honorific”, but “Mrs. Agatha Dinsdale” was her legal name.
That’s really weird.
Fwiw, i just pulled out my discover card, which says
Firstname Middlename Lastname
on the back. (And just “discover” on the front)
There’s no honorific. They must have messed up when they issued your wife’s card. I suspect that that have “Mrs.” listed as her first name.
My bank messed up when they created my account. They have my last name as Middlename Lastname, and no middle name. It’s a minor pain when they need to look me up, but not enough of a pain that I’ve ever tried to fix it.