In case you aren’t familiar with the poem:
“She had blue skin,
And so did he.
He kept it hid
And so did she.
They searched for blue
Their whole life through,
Then passed right by-
And never knew.”
What is your interpretation of this poem? I’m asking because my husband sent this poem to an unidentified woman (I found it in his “sent” items in his email)… he has been having an emotional affair with her. After finding it he said he “didn’t know why he sent it to her” and “it meant nothing”. I’m heartbroken and physically ill. How concerned shold I be about this… to me, it appears that they must have been pretty close and spoken of intimate things to feel like they had this shared bond…
That poem and what you described signify to me that he’s emotionally attached to the woman and he’s lying to you about it.
I’m really sorry. 
I think it means…not what he thinks it means.
He’s emotionally attached, doing the things that people do when they think they’re stupid in love.
Really sorry for you. I hope you can go talk to someone together and resolve this.
Oh, dear. Yeah, not good. I’m sorry.
Sounds like he’s got a fetish of some sort and found someone that shares the fetish and is going about things all the wrong way.
There’s no possible way to interpret that poem to “mean nothing”. I’m very sorry.
Do you have a counselor or lawyer? Id interpret it to mean they share a secret.
No doubt they shared some secrets His emails in the sent folder have all been deleted back to March… so since I found out, he has hidden much more. Good grief. I guess being a busy wife/mother with a full time job makes for a boring/lousy partner. His reasoning? His dad left him when he was 9 and he’s always filling that “hole” with someone’s attention.
sigh I’d rather be alone than live with this anymore. (yes, it’s happened before).
I once sent poetry to a friend who was having relationship trouble. My intention was just to give him a shoulder to cry on, but I suppose it could have appeared incriminating had some third party decided to snoop around in my email folders. This was a long time ago and I don’t even remember what the poem was.
Although I admit he didn’t do himself much good with the “I don’t know why I sent it” line.
I’d never encountered that poem before (despite being familiar with some of Shel S’s other work) but I understood immediately what it signified.
That said, the last line of your post (above mine, not your OP) says it all.
This is why I don’t believe in monogamy. If someone feels a connection with another person at work, or wherever…can they really help it? And if they can’t ‘help it’, do they have to ‘cut ties’ or ‘monitor’ what they can and can’t say to that person?
Some of my most amazing friendships have been spontaneous and have just blossomed from great conversations or shared ideas or humor. It sucks that some people have to stifle that kind of thing or else they can no longer be with the person they love at home. I’m speaking for myself of course, when I say this. I understand that monogamy is fine for others. For me though, I can only have a relationship if my partner understood that at any given time, I may share a poem that sounds like I found someone very special to me…addressed to someone else.
It’s a classic case of a missed romantic opportunity for two colourblind smurfs