arseNal
September 22, 2009, 5:36am
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I’ll allow that in some of these, the poster probably does not have any malicious intent in slandering asian males, but are couching perhaps earnest statements/questions in the form of “I have heard <some unflattering attribute> about asian dudes, I wonder if this is true?” But all the same, they are perpetuating the stereotypes, and for the most part, if you were to phrase these same questions/comments in such a blanket manner about other ethnic groups, the SDMB would be howling. And nothing necessarily against the posters I’m about to quote; in some cases I generally think they’re good guys based on their posts on other subjects.
http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=11568965&postcount=62
Like others in this thread, I have heard that Japanese girls (esp in the Ropongi district) are quite keen on sleeping with a gaijin. In fact, I’ve had a Japanese fellow tell me that they are interested in having sex with westerners because of the size of Japanese men’s dongs. Seriously (yes, I was very surprised to hear that from a Japanese man!)
So what’s the deal? Any Japanese women around to comment?
(HAHA! A japanese guy told me a japanese woman said this! Don’t blame me! What do you japanese ladies say?)
http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=11567879&postcount=37
For one, Asian cultures tend to be much more patriarchal than the US, and especially more than the kind of inquisitive, open-minded types of Americans that tend to want to live overseas. I remember one date in Korea telling me that I was the first guy she’d ever dated that let her decide where we went or what movie we saw.
For another, in some cases the Asian girl is herself not “pick of the litter” in her own culture. A girl that many Asian men would call disgustingly fat might only be pleasingly plump to an American guy (ditto for several other physical features). A girl who is socially awkward in her own culture might actually connect easier with another outsider. Because of the misogyny, very smart girls are sometimes unpopular with Asian guys; but they’re also the ones most likely to have good enough English to date a foreigner.
(See? I heard those asian guys are so shallow and chauvinistic, it’s no wonder the asian women don’t like them.)
http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=11575295&postcount=149
It’s true that the Asian man / Western woman combo is rare here, at least in Thailand, but it does exist. But in Hawaii, I knew one Thai man / American white woman married couple that possibly exemplified why.
The Thai man was a medical doctor and thus highly educated. The American white woman was a graduate student at the University of Hawaii’s East West Center, a federal research think-tank. That was why they were in Hawaii, because she was a student there. He was just along for the ride. Because of his skill, he was allowed to work somewhere as a doctor. His wife, as an East West Center student, had a rather heavy workload. Still, despite the husband’s education and familiarity with Western ways, he demanded his wife have dinner on the table for him every night, clean the house etc. That’s just what wives DO, you see. That’s just the way he was raised, and he had a hard time shaking it. I recall the marriage breaking up.
The male-Asian culture can be quite different from the female-Asian culture.
(This was just one guy I knew, but maybe this explains why all the asian guys can never get the ladies? amirite??)
http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=11567909&postcount=42
If I were a Japanese woman, I might very well hit on a “foreigner” - from what I understand, a lot of Japanese men seem to be mean drunks who are building themselves screw-bots. I think Japanese women ought to emigrate to teach Japanese as a second language and leave their loser men to knock themselves out with their inventions.
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