Hi folks - This is a mostly GQ topic but we’ll probably be settling for anecdote, so IMHO it is.
Medical professionals learn what I’m going to call “clinical distance” (if there’s a better official term please share). Namely when poking or prodding or looking at somebody you don’t forget they’re a human, but you compartmentalize what you’re paying attention to. Specifically, you don’t attend to any sexual thoughts involving them. Even if you’ve got a handful or eyeful of their sexual parts at the moment.
At the same time, medical pros learn a lot about anatomy, And a certain amount about the functioning of all parts, including the sexual ones. Some of that knowledge presumably can / could be used to be a better sex partner. And in general, just as pilots are stoked about airplanes, medics are stoked about human bodies.
Separately, medical pros are people too. They have SOs, they have a sex life of some level, sexual desires, kinks, and all the rest.
With that background (and feel free to pick it apart if it’s BS)…
The question is whether and how the medical training and/or clinical distance thinking affects for good or ill the personal sex lives of practitioners.
Are they extra skilled sexually? Extra motivated? Are they bored with all flesh having seen far too much of it in raggedy condition 8-12 hours a day? Does how they think about and handle patients at work leak consciously or unconsciously into how they treat their SO? Is this a known occupational hazard? etc.?
Why am I asking you ask? Good question.
Anyone who’s been married or LTRed with somebody long enough will have served as amateur nurse, changing a wound dressing your partner can’t reach, helping them while they barf up food poisoning, feeding them via spoon when they’re too ill with flu to feed themselves, etc.
And in those moments, despite the fact this is the person you love a lot and you swap fluids with regularly, they are utterly non-sexual to you right now. Or at least that’s been my experience.
So I wondered if medics have a problem with their vastly greater amount of similar conditioning at work leaking into their normal home life.