I was repeatedly raped by a very close male relative as a child. It was nasty, violent, and the purpose was to put me in my place and/or force me to kill myself. I had no recourse. There were no agencies in place to help me, and i couldn’t have gone to one if it existed because I would have “disappeared.” If you think it’s tough for male rape victims here and now, try to imagine to going through it in Northern Idaho in the early 70’s.
I wanted to post something like, “What? There are people who’ve had sexual experiences where they weren’t uncomfortable??” but I was worried people would think I’m being flippant about rape.
It means I would have been taken along on a trip to Sandpoint to deliver cedar shakes, and this relative would have told the authorities, eventually, that I had run away.
There’s good uncomfortable, like being alone with someone new and having normal animal reactions when your clothes are still on and still being not 100% sure of everyone’s intentions.
Then there’s bad uncomfortable, like a woman coming up to you around a lot of other people at a party, moving to embrace you but then sticking their finger in some place unexpected.
Yeah, OK, my bad, I just had a moment of mistaken gender indentity. Czarcasm, I apologize. I thought you were challenging my response to Alice_in_Wonderland and mistook you for female at that moment.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard some variation of ‘guys shit isn’t really that bad, so let’s get back to us.’ I get spiky about it.
OK - I’m waiting for the men who checked that box to start rolling out the sob stories. I’m sure I’ll feel really bad for all these poor, helpless victims*. :rolleyes:
*To be clear I’m still talking about anyone who said they were sexually assaulted by a female, not the guy who said he was repeatedly raped by his uncle as a kid - that’s a bit of a different situation.
My shit is that I’m the first, and so far only, to post #1. This forms some of my earliest memories and is the reason I’ve spent most of my adult life alone, the romances I’ve had, few and far between have mostly ended badly, and yeah, I’ve spent a lot of time and money on the problem.
I also answered yes to #3, I’ve had unwelcome physical contact from a coworker, clearly sexual, that I have chosen not to made an issue of.
So you don’t think it would be possible for a large woman to terrorize a small man? How about if she was wearing a strap-on? Or had a gun/knife/other weapon?
I’m not saying it happens with the same regularity as man on woman, but I’ve met enough big crazy women to imagine it could happen in the wrong circumstances.
My dad is 5’4" and weighs about 115 lbs - I bet a lot of women could mess him up if they decided the wanted to.
