It’s all a part of the “rape culture” that’s been developed to sexually oppress men, unfortunately.
I checked this one but it wasn’t fear of being raped or otherwise sexually coerced. Fear of being run over by her, fear of her disrupting my home life, my job life, fear of her hiring someone to beat the shit out of me or something, all that kind of thing, but no, she was smaller than me and if limited to one on one physical violence without weapons and etc I was safe from harm. It was totally once of those Fatal Attraction kind of things though.
When I was 19 I was hitchhiking and got picked up by a pair of truck drivers who decided to mess with my head and mess with my body, the latter confined to a whole lot of “accidental” brushings and bumpings that drove me crazy trying to figure out if it was my lack-of-sleep-induced imagination. For all that it was severely nerve-wracking, I don’t know that at that point I was in any sexual-physical danger.
It got worse: they had my bags that I had with me when they picked me up. I didn’t want to continue as their passenger when they made a stop, and I found someone else who would give me a ride, so i asked for my bags back. They gave me one then denied having ever seen the other one, and invited me to investigate the sleeping compartment behind the seats if maybe I thought they’d hidden it from me or something. I went as far as standing on the metal stair-steps and looking back into the cab and then got a REAL BAD feeling; the driver was behind me suggesting that I satisfy my suspicious curiosity (while berating me for taking a ride from them and then accusing them of stealing etc etc) but I did not know where his driving partner was, and I just had this sudden vision that he was IN the sleeping compartment waiting for me to pull the curtain back and that BAD THINGS were gonna happen if I did that.
I don’t know that he was. I backstepped the hell out of there and got more epithets tossed at me by the driver. For awhile after that I blamed myself for somehow putting out some kind of “vibe” that made these people do this, before realizing I was victim-blaming myself and that nothing I could ever have done excused this, even if they were just playing with my head and didn’t intend any actual violence.
:rolleyes:
Which are you rolling eyes at? The idea that adult males get victimized by sexual assault, or the idea that other adult males make fun of them for it and/or pretend that it doesn’t actually happen?
Considering he was a victim of sexual assault, it’s definitely not the former.
Really, it’s the idea that men are sexually victimized by women at anywhere near the level the reverse is true.
An idea you invented, then.
I checked “none of the above” because I don’t really “know” that I was ever molested. But I have always had a particular memory about something from a very early age, and it can’t be explained as anything but a sexual experience. But the person associated with that memory is now deceased, so I’ll never know.
I invite you to re-read her post, she expressed sympathy without ever comparing the male experience to the female. Frankly, your rolleyes was completely uncalled for.
:rolleyes:
What the actual fuck is wrong with people on this board, and how is mockery in any way an acceptable response to people in your community telling you they have been sexually assaulted?
Score one for macho culture, I suppose.
Rigamarole, physical violence isn’t the only thing that a woman can have in her arsenal (although some women have that too).
Were I so inclined, I could threaten a man with a gun (I don’t count that as strictly physical), threaten his family or pets, threaten his job (this one is limited though) or threaten his property. And there isn’t too much he could about it, in most cases.
Good thing I’m not so inclined, yes?
By some accounts, rape/molestation/sexual assault is at least as traumatic for men as for women, and sometimes more so. I think this is because when a woman is raped no one questions that she is a woman, but if a man is raped/molested/whatevered then his manhood IS called into question, at least by some people.
The mockery faced by men in this thread who have the courage to talk about being victims of this sort of crime is a sterling example of what men face when admitting that they have been sexually assaulted in some manner.
It doesn’t matter that a man being sexually assaulted happens much less frequently than a woman being sexually assaulted - both situation are wrong.
And thus, because YOU are okay with it, then everyone else should be?
SOMEONE here needs to grow something…but it ain’t “a pair.” Just…wow.
See the quote above. Disgusting.
I didn’t say anything other than I think these experiences and the reactions to them strike me as decidedly sucky. I’m aware the prevalence rate for men is not as high. It doesn’t really change the reality for any guy who has lived it.
Considering that one of the greatest factors that contributes to psychological damage following a trauma is other people’s reactions to what happened, it would pretty much have to be.
Yeah, but when males are traumatized, it’s by men, not by women. Men do not go around in physical fear of women all the time. It’s not the same thing.
Is Khaki Campbell lying or not a man?
Neither. He’s an exception.
How should I know?
One guy claiming to have been abused by one woman is not what I’m talking about, anyway. I’m talking about the generalized, constant wariness that all women have to live with about men. Guys aren’t walking to their cars with one hand on the pepper spray in their purse just in case a woman jumps out of the dark and attacks him.
It’s something that women always have to think about, and it’s a physical fear that men don’t have to live with.