I didn’t say we weren’t prurient. I’m just saying that the incidence of men with the “No fat chicks” bumper stickers or the guys who beat their wives is probably going to be lower in the population of the SDMB than it will be from the general population.
Maybe I should have removed the “horny” modification to “jackass”…
OK, now I getcha!
I’m hardly one to speak, but as long as everything is reasonably in proportion and reasonably ok, then it’s the woman inside that’s important to me. Maybe I would have some success if I were shallower?
Bingo.
FWIW, I’m about as attracted to Sarah Jessica Parker as I am to Janet Reno. Girl just does nothing for me. But then I don’t find her face fetching and I do find her (for me, personally, regarding my personal preference, so don’t anyone get the idea that I’m saying she’s universally putrid and I’d rather cut off my dick than look at her:)) too skinny. I doubt I’d be explain to explain why any more than I can explain my favorite color. ::shrug::
A body will get my attention.
A face will keep my attention.
But its a heart and mind will endear me.
I’ve dated pretty women (the ones who turn guys heads) and I’ve gone out with women who have beautiful facial features and a so so body. But if they didn’t have things going upstairs (ie. brain) or they exhibited a mean streat (cold hearted B*^ch) then it was pretty much over after the first few (1 or 2) dates.
There are a lot of women who have hearts of gold. They may be tarnished a bit from previous experiences, but with a little burnishing (ie. care and attention) they will begin to shine and inturn become irresistable.
I myself will pick an attractive face over an attractive body, particularly in a long-term relation. Why? Because the amount of sex will inevitably tapper down, but I get to look at the same face for decades.
Hopefully, anyway.
Could your location play into that?
The face. Definitely the face. But “pretty” isn’t necessarily the criterion. The face has to be - not necessarily pretty, but - “just so”. There’s a spark in the eye and a wry twist to the smile that can reduce me to my constituent atoms, regardless of the shape of the sack of flesh and bone that’s carrying it about.
There’s a certain look that says to me, “let’s get drunk and read Dickens” that speaks to me more than a bronzed bikini-clad body ever could.
This is the Land of the Rising Sun, not the Land of the Red-Hot Buns!
FWIW, I lived for many years in a part of the US with one of the highest obesity rates in the country. So I’ve seen plenty of fat butts, but a fat butt is not automatically “nasty” to me. I may not always find it especially attractive, but it wouldn’t send me running either. I mean, a butt is a butt. I don’t expect it to be a person’s prettiest feature. I guess shapely buttocks would be preferable to ones that ain’t, but I can’t see myself being unhappy with a partner who failed to have a killer caboose.
I guess if they had a tail or a big scary scar or something that might be weird, but if I cared about them then after a while I’m sure it wouldn’t bother me.
A little; but, what a great way to tell your SO’s mood!
Why are we so obsessed with women’s external body parts, rather than with their minds?
I don’t evaluate women based on their face, breasts, buttocks, or any other body parts.
I don’t see women as parts. I see women as a whole.
I can only conclude that your post was tongue-in-cheek. But just in case it wasn’t, I would like to point out that minds, intellects, souls, inter alia were not part of the choice set offered by the OP.
I concur with js: I was only weighing face and body as per the OP.
I won’t even consider a woman for a long-term relationship unless there’s rapport and mutual respect between us – and while I was less choosy when I was younger, I don’t even care for casual sex without these things.
But yes, physical attraction does matter to me. If that makes me shallow, so be it.
I don’t know why so many people are hung up on faces. I mean, there’s always doggie-style.
That’s why I asked which you’d prefer for just sex and also in a relationship. I mean, you can’t be doing a girl 24-7, so there’s a point when you have to look at her.
But your statement reminds me of the term my guy friends in high school used to refer to a girl with a nice body but not-so-nice face- FDIP (face down in pillow).
I just learned a similar term this past December when one of my friends came back for Xmas break: But’er face - Everything’s nice but her face
For the sexual and long-term, I gotta go with a pretty face. I’ve seen some ugly chicks (really ugly) and I’ve seen some off and akward bodies (from the stay puffed chicks to the olive oil toothpick ones), but the feature that makes me the most sick to the stomach has to be an ugly face.
Here’s my preference list:
I lucked out- my Lady wife and I met online, so the only one I really could be sure of was #1…turns out that I was just lucky and hit the jackpot.
On another note, it saddens me a little bit that there are so many women hung up on physical stuff and changing themselves (a cursory glance at the local checkout line will confirm this) when much of what makes a woman attractive to any given man is immutable- bone structure, eyes, hair texture, etc. No matter how fit/ toned you might be, no matter what tricks you learn in bed, if you’re unpleasant and have the face of a warthog, you’ll have trouble finding/keeping a man. It’s like the old saw- ‘I might be fat, but I can lose the weight- you’ll always be an asshole.’ Though I realize that you don’t have as much control over your desireablity is sort of a frustrating thought.
And as always, the real unspoken #1-3 on the list will always be: Hygene, hygene, hygene!
As others have said - it really is a package deal with me; however, I’d be hard pressed to remember any women that I’ve know that had trim, fit, athletic bodies that didn’t also have at least somewhat attractive faces. If a woman is inclined to stay physically fit, she’s usually also inclined to make sure she makes the most of whatever gifts she has in the beauty department. That isn’t a hard and fast rule - just my personal experience.
For some reason, the same cannot be said for men. I’ve known several guys that had unbelievable bodies, but had very unattractive faces.