Once, me best friend (Psycho Kitten, here at the 'Dope) showed me a new bra she had just got. I said, “I would very much like to see you in it. And then I’d very much like to see you out of it.”
Lingerie is many things… it’s the knowledge that someone is trying to turn you on, it’s the nice additions to an already nice image, it’s that aura of mystery that plays with the imagination, it’s the immense joy that comes from taking it off… and the activities that most likely will follow.
However, when it comes to just looking… well, if I know that the “Lingerie Effect” isn’t targeted at me, it kind of fizzles.
And Daniel… keep your stinkin’ hose to yourself, ya killjoy ::imagines black socks s’more::
Goddess, I feel sorry for your wife! Women who think they are only “average” are pretty much never gonna enjoy sex. Do you like thinking of yourself as average when you are in bed with someone? I wear lingerie because it makes me feel sexy, sends the signal that I am in the mood and enhances the whole event by slowing things down. I am, however, in my 40’s and sure don’t have the body of any VS model - are you telling me I am wrong?
Sassy, my wife is homely looking. She’s had two C-sections and a hernia, so her belly is a lumpy mess. She has never been athletic, and always been a little heavy. She’s a 36B. We’re both 43, and I’m no Fabio either.
I want to make love to her every day, and she knows that.
I think it’s more important to women to feel sexy. Men don’t feel sexy, they feel horny. I think a woman’s need to feel sexy corresponds is analogous to a man’s need to feel sexually capable. My sexuality is not hung up in how good I think I am in bed, and I suspect some women’s sexuality is not hung up in how sexy they feel.
So, bottom line: different folks, different strokes.
Yeah, but we also have a need for sexy garments for men also, its like oh god, I look like my dads dad in these tidy white grandpa under pants, and to find truely sexy stuff, ya gotta go to one of the stripper web sites, you walk through the department stores they cater to females 100% but for us guys, its either tidy whities ,or colored boxers, or some lame ass style our great great grandfathers use to wear from the 1800’s.
We prefer that old threads not be revived without good reason, and this one has been dead for a long, long time. As such, we’ll let it rest in peace. Thread closed.
