It would be completely weird for my SO to sleep in the same bed with another man, gay or otherwise. That just doesn’t look right even if it is innocent.
Quite an interesting thread.
I am fascinated that there are so many of you who say that you would not have any problems with your SO sharing a bed with a friend (gay or straight).
Like a few others I am in what seems to be the minority position. I would feel very uncomfortable in almost all of the scenarios posted here.
Wife sleeping in same bed as gay male friend (who I am quite sure is gay) - outside my boundaries.
Wife staying over at apartment of male friend but in different room - A situation I would very much prefer her to avoid.
Wife sleeping in same bed as female friend - Ok-ish. Not in our bed though.
I hold myself to the same standards so I would not share a bed with a lesbian friend, nor stay over at a female friend’s apartment etc.
It all comes down to what the two people in a relationship are comfortable with and where their boundaries are. It is not about not trusting the SO. To me when you are in a relationship you should avoid certain things out of respect for the other person.
These include things like sleeping in the same bed as someone else.
I wouldn’t care at all . . . if she cheats on you, then you’re lucky (assuming you somehow find out). Your wife is exposed as a cheater and you get a “get out of jail free card” to end the marriage. Now you can finally do it with someone else!
Shall we schedule your next appointment?