Why is it OK for a woman to have a gay best friend that she spends time with and even share a bedroom with and nothing is expected to happen and it is seen as OK.
But when I (a single straight guy) and my Lesbian friend spend time together and share a bedroom its seen as weird? Why the double standard.
I have a load of female friends and a few really good male friends but my best friends is a gay woman - tell me why this is weird.
My daughter who is gay has a gay guy best friend and I think nothing of it if they sleep in the same room (both are 19+) but she thinks its weird about me also.
WHY!!!
I wouldn’t say that it is not OK, but I think the sharing a bedroom part is weird. Even outside of sex, the bedroom is a private place in which one would want to do private things. There are non-sexual forms of intimacy beyond basic friendship and IMO sleeping in close proximity is one of them.
Of course different people and different cultures have different expectations of privacy, so some people don’t have any problem with it. But I can see how it’s a person-to-person thing.
Because a straight man will hit on the lesbian. The gay man will not hit on the straight woman. The women don’t hit on anything ever. At least, that’s what they say.
I’d think it was a little odd if a gay man and a straight woman shared a bedroom together. I don’t want to share sleeping quarters with anyone I’m not involved with. I suppose if it were a situation where there were a limited number of bedrooms it would make sense, but in general it seems strange.
The only thing weird I find about this is all the sharing of bedrooms. lol Why?
As far as sharing friendship…I don’t get how somebody’s sexual preference has anything to do with interests, hobbies, intelligence and sense of humor…things that usually get a friendship going in the first place. And as far as somebody else having a problem with it (hitches up pants) well, 'Aye God, guess that really is THEIR problem, isn’t it?
I don’t think I even know any straight women who’ve shared a bedroom with a gay man, and I’ve known straight women who lived in the same apartment as (unrelated) gay men.
I don’t think a straight man sharing a bedroom with a lesbian is any weirder than a straight woman sharing a bedroom with a gay man, but I think they are both pretty weird. Why can’t you sleep in your own bedrooms?
In my experience, what the OP descibes isn’t necessarilt true. I seem to attract lesbians (in a Platonic, non-sexual way), and I’ve had several lesbian friends. Of course, whenever I’ve gone out and done anything wuith them, they generally took their lesbian girlfriend with them , so maybe that’s why I got a pass.
I don’t know anything about the bedroom thing, but when Rene and Tracy are visiting, Rene sits in the living room with me, we watch TV and talk about science fiction shows. Tracy is in the kitchen with my wife cooking.
Usually.
Unless it’s summer and a cookout. Then Rene and I are grilling while our wives sit around drinking wine and gossipping.
It is none of my damn business how much they divide their other chores or activities along “traditional” gender role lines, but Rene is definitely the butch one in that couple. All of our daughters like that we get along.
That’s what I’m thinking. I’m a lesbian and have often shared hotel rooms with straight female friends. A double bed once (it was all the hotel had) - FTR I felt much more uncomfortable with that particular arrangement than my straight friend.
There is nothing weird about it at all. I assure you that, for the most part, no one cares and that you spend way more time thinking about it than anyone else.
