Great post/username combo there.
After watching a *Walking Dead *marathon this weekend, it seemed the thing to do.
My wife’s life is more important than mine. My children’s lives are much, much more important than mine. So I’d willfully get violent with anyone doing physical violence to any of them, and quite possibly with anyone even threatening them.
But after the fact, in revenge? No. Revenge is stupid and pointless. It won’t benefit my wife or kids for me to be in jail; it’ll hurt them. If I felt like making up a hypothetical I could postulate a situation in which I needed to act proactively to prevent probable future harm to them, but it’s unlikely that I’d ever need to do so.
ETA: Also, when you think about it, taking revenge is quite often a selfish act.
Cannons?! Anything less than tactical nukes is for wusses.
I think you’re whooshed. Please don’t hurt me.
It depends on what was done to my wife (or my daughters). I would probably not pursue vigilante justice after the fact for any other woman. Well, actually my mother would qualify. Again it would depend on what happened. If someone hit my wife, probably not. Raped, very likely.
On another note, a very good friend of mine saw an altercation in a parking garage between a woman and a man and came to her defense. The asshole shot and killed both of them. Gives me pause before I decide to intervene on behalf of a stranger and that was 20 years ago. With my wife, daughters, mother, friends, etc… I would immediately come to their defense
I try to avoid fights. I’m not that concerned about my “honor” as a man and would rather not escalate things. Plus I tend to be against vigilantism. If someone attacked my wife I would bring it to court and if they aren’t gonna do anything about it, I’d just let bygones be bygones unless the man continued to threaten her.
I’d only consider vigilantism if it was absolutely my only choice aside from a terrorized/dead wife.
In 1991, my 18 year old daughter was murdered.
The guy I think & the police think was responsible was not prosecuted for political reasons, hence my disdain for DA’s. Even if a jury had let him go, that would have been better than a political coward wanting to run for governor refusing because he might look bad. What he told the LT. on the case off the record. He was just a disgusted with the DA as I am.
I am 98% certain it was that guy. But that 2% and threats from the police & surveillance by the police prevented me & my son, when he got back from overseas on compassionate leave from doing our own questioning.
He fled to South America & can not be extricated.
I have to live with her death every day.
I have to live with myself not doing anything every day.
I did nothing, that is hard to live with.
Will I act like this if anything like it goes down again?
Will I be more proactive?
Will I let God sort them out?
I am going on 71 so what are they going to do to me if “they” think & can prove I did something wrong? Bawahahaha
Knowing my daughter, and judging by the signs of struggle, I do not think she would be for just letting it slide. She did not get to die quick.
I get to wonder for the rest of my life if in her last seconds, she was crying out for her daddy to to help her.
IMO, the ability to chalk it up to “let bygones be bygones” or just shrug & walk away is not the way to make the world a better place.
But apparently many people think that is what it the best course of action and the easiest to live with.
Just to touch all the basses, I know with 100% certainty that not having a weapon did not save her or improve her situation in any manner. I should have provided her one since she had been living alone in her first apartment for 6 weeks.
::: shakes head & wanders away :::::
I would ask my wife what the hell she did to piss the guy off to the point of smacking her around.
Knowing her, she probably started it.
Oh, well, I didn’t know that old saws were the authority.
This reminds me of the infamous Dukakis debate question: “if Kitty Dukakis were raped and murdered, would you favor an irrevocable death penalty for the killer?” and his “No, I don’t …” answer.
He flubbed it.
Step one: embrace and admit to the desire for revenge. Then place yourself as a willing part of a society that does not allow, should not allow, for what you want just because you want it.
Would I want to either directly or cause to occur the living shit be beaten out of the perp? Fuck yeah.
And I would not do it. Give me a risk free way, a way that does not cost me my career, a magic button to push and it happens no one ever need know (or if it serves my needs they do) … no matter. Vigilantee justice is not suddenly okay because I am the one who wants it. My revenge fantasies can remain on the screen.
If my wife wanted to take revenge for an assault, she’s perfectly capable of doing it herself, she’s a grown woman.
Listen, in a lawless society where prosecutors fail to do their job then violent vengence is a reasonable recourse when done by a man. But letting a woman loose on the guy is cruel and beyond the pale.
(It’s a joke ladies, don’t get all hysterical)
((that’s a joke too))
I think them broads will be laughing their heads off!
Kipling would agree…
Got married in a Catholic ceremony. Was asked whether or not I’d die for my wife or my family and somehow I said “yes,” so that’s that.
What kind of “Catholic ceremony” asked you that?!
Apparently he lives in FantasyLand.
GunsNSpots, I’m sorry about your daughter’s death and I’m sorry that you never got to see justice.
I’m a girl, but my first question to the OP is “What kind of assault?” Because there are technical assaults and then there are assaults.
If a drunk in a bar twisted my arm or something, my husband would be able to control himself. I’m not a wilting violet and can stand up for myself against most people. But if a man were to violently attack me and really hurt me…well, there is no one way that my husband (or my dad, for that matter) would let that lie.
… An’ go to your Gawd like a soldier.
This is my response too. If she asked for help I’d help her.