If it’s just happened? Or three months later, after the DA has decided he’s not going to take this one to trial?
The latter.
If, as per the hypothetical, the guy can beat up my wife and get away with it, I can beat him up and get away with it. So I would break his knee and his elbow and his nose. Then, if I found he was insensible to kindness, I would sue him.
Regards,
Shodan
I am very sorry to hear about what happened. Just two quick points.
First, I don’t think letting bygones be bygones is necessarily the easiest course of action. Frankly, countering your own instincts is often the hardest course of action When I say I wouldn’t pursue vigilante justice, I am by no means saying that I think it’s an easy course of action.
Second, if you think about the issue of taking revenge versus not, I think you can illustrate for yourself which course of action makes the world the better place. If everyone chooses to revenge everything, then you kill the guy who killed your daughter. Someone else kills you, because you killed his son/brother/whatever. Then your son kills him. There is never any end to the killing as long as someone always seeks revenge. The violence and the grief increase exponentially.
The only way in which we can aspire to a peaceful society is one in which we do NOT revenge every wrong done against us. I don’t choose that out of weakness or complacency. I choose it because it I refuse to live in a perpetual cycle of violence.
Ermmm… during the interview with the priest, part of the preparations before the actual ceremony.
In PreCana? Odd priest.
Letting murders go free makes the world better how?
Did I say every wrong?
Just as an aside, the ones standing at the end of the day are the ones that are hardest to kill. Be that of themselves or being able to hire guards.
Being in the USA at this time in history we get a very limited & restricted view of how most of the world. Much of it, maybe even most of it does not hold with the sanctity of human life to the degree that many here do.
I may chose to die for you but I damn well won’t die because of you.
I make myself very hard to kill. I did not teach my daughter well enough. That is on me.
Not everyone can deal with revenge. I can accept that just fine even if I don’t like or respect it. But that position thought about enough becomes just a very small step from a person who will not fight for anything where he might lose his life. He will give up my freedom in a heart beat. Now that attitude I have a problem with.
This is not aimed at or in reference to anyone on the SDMB.
Just splainin where I am coming from.
Well, yes. Somebody attacking your wife and not being prosecuted is not beyond the realms of reality, particularly if it was rape.
My friend was attacked and we didn’t report it precisely because we knew her father would go all-out against them. And then he’d get killed, because he was an ordinary man, and they were violent people who probably would count as gangsters in that they operated in an organised way and would back each other up. Reporting meant telling him, which meant him dying.
The person who attacked your wife and can get off the charge is probably a lot better at fighting than you are; they probably have back-up, for a start. So if you go after them your wife loses you and feels that it was her fault.
I understand the desire to protect your loved ones and I’ve felt it myself, but you have to hold back.
From the womens’ side:
The Divemaster and I are both CCL. He carries in public, I do not, unless I’m traveling alone.
I would EXPECT him to intervene against anyone who laid a hand on me. Absolutely. Before God, I hope he never has to end up having to put a bullet between the perp’s eyes (he is a crack shot), but if it comes to that, it comes to that.
Actions have consequences. Something the liberals in this country have forgotten. And yes. If the shoe was on the other foot, I’d do no less for him.
No, we haven’t forgotten it. We’re just better attuned to pay attention to the full range of consequences.
Oftentimes, being the one to impose what you think are appropriate consequences winds up backfiring massively. Conservatives thought it was necessary to impose consequences on a guy named Saddam Hussein awhile back. And we succeeded, in that limited sense. But how did it work out for us, overall? Not so well, did it?
If, having been beaten up by some guy, you feel that you’re better off with the guy dead and your spouse in prison for the rest of his life, than you would be if the guy got away with it, but you and your spouse got to spend the rest of your lives together - well, I can’t say you’re wrong, just that we’re in very, very different places.
Read the op and the thread again. This was about taking revenge several months after the attack, not about defending your partner while she was actually being attacked. Completely different thing.
I DID misread the op. My bad. In that case, no. I want the SO at home looking after my possible trauma. Late stage revenge serves no one, least of all me.
Then please ignore my response to you. Given your misunderstanding of the OP, you weren’t really saying what I thought you were saying.
I’m curious. What “consequences” for which actions is it that the “Liberals” seem to have forgotten?
Is it possible that this more about your “White Knight” fantasies than anything constructive or practical?
I suggest that this is fantasy.
Can’t help you out on the Saddam thing.
Is it possible that this made more coherent?
I’d be pissed at my SO if he decided it was worth risking his life for freedom to avenge me after the fact. I don’t want revenge. I want my life, and that includes him being able to come home at night.