There are few limitations to what men can wear for wedding rings these days. With that in mind I ponder the following…
Is the size of a man’s wedding directly proportionate to the insecurity of his wife?
It’s my “the bigger the ring the less chance it will be missed therefore there will be no question as to whether or not he is married” theory.
Stands back and watches to see if anyone responds to first thread
my stance comes from the fact that I’m the daughter of an extremely talented custom jeweler. As far as I’m concerned, it’s great that men’s wedding rings have finally gotten out of the plain band phase they’ve been in for centuries. I’ve seen some wonderful ones that dad did (he gave us an “off the rack” one for my -ex- husband - go figure). so, I’d vote no, has nothing to do with insecurities, more to do with taste, style, availability of great sums of money…
I don’t have any data, so I can’t answer your question. Most men’s rings I’ve seen have been plain – mostly because most guys, I suspect, don’t want anything more complicated. (Yet they’ll wear ornate and outsized school rings and Superbowl rings – go figure.)
My own wedding ring is a four-band puzzle ring
I wear a big ring because I am a big guy (6’3", 200+). My wife didn’t even have an opinion on my ring. She felt, like I did, that a plain gold band was enough. I take it off to sleep, at the gym and when I play my horn (it scratches the tuba) but other than that it is always with me. I honestly have never even considered the implications of it.
Plain/white gold here. I did it because I am not a jewelry kind of guy, I like silver much more than yellow gold, and when I put it on it just looked like me.
I’ve heard THAT before! I’ve also heard of women who think men who wear wedding bands (read: are married) make better prospects because it’s proof that the men are heterosexual, and know how to treat women well (well enough to get married), which means the fellow is also a romantic.
Kind of a twisted way of looking at it, but I swear I’ve heard this before.
…guess it means I have to start watching over Obfusciatrist carefully!!! LOL
– the Blushing Newly-Married MrsBaglady
PS: plain 4mm platinum bands for the both of us–except it’s still on order!!!
I’m not married - but I’m going out tomorrow to buy a wedding band for sure!
My fiancé has said for years, long before we were engaged, that he wanted a fat, wide-banded wedding ring “I could almost use as a slide on my guitar.” That’s purely his idea, and I’m amused enough by it to go along. It will look good on his large, long hand.
Fidelity and sexuality had no impact in his decision–he just thinks it looks neat.
It’s not the size of his ring. It’s how he uses it!
Slightly off-topic…
What I always find amusing are single women who wear rings, sometimes 2 or 3 to a finger, on every finger EXCEPT the third finger of their left hand…wouldn’t want to take the chance of a guy thinking they’re married or engaged or something.
It looks a little funny, all those rings, on every finger, even the thumb sometimes, but that “ring finger” is always bare, so the guys will know they’re available!
Gosh, does that sound catty or what?
I had never really thought of this. I’m trying to figure out what kind of ring I’m going to get for Matt when we get married next year. I’d like to get a gold band with a couple of diamonds in it but I’m not sure. I guess we’ll just have to look around and see what we like.
Meow! Would you like to join me for a bowl of milk? 
I’m just opposite. My fingers are bare, except for a regular ring that I wear on my ring finger. Hmmm…
Thanks Chief, somebody had to do it and it was likely gonna either be you or me.
As to men’s rings. I think it is completely up to the guy. I wanted a ring that was not too large nor too small on my hand.
4mm looked to small on my finger, but 8mm looked like I was wearing a pipe connector (I am not a plumber so I have no idea what you call them). I went with the 6mm, which looked the best. I chose the basic smooth gold band, I work behind a desk all day so I figured I did not need anything that would hide scratches, but it has gotten a lot of scratches over the years, I wish now, I had gotten a textured ring.
The best thing I did was get a comfort fit, it is rounded on the edges so that is does not feel like it is cutting your finger going on or coming off.
That is all I have to say about men’s wedding rings.
Jeffery
My husband picked out his own ring. Mine’s thin platinum and his is a thicker gold band. Completely plain, with a rounded edge. He tried two thicknesses and two colors and made the choice on his own. I told him if I had to wear a ring, he had to wear one. Hell, I took his last name, wearing a ring is the least he could do.
Right now, he’s the only half of this couple wearing one. I got a nasty rash under my rings and had to take them off. It’s still healing. (Well, that’s the story I told my husband anyway ;))
Okay, slight hijack here…
This thread reminds me of what happened while we were vacationing over the July 4th holiday. The hubby and I were swimming in the lake when he commented that his ring was “slipping off his finger”. I told him to take it off and put it in the boat (we had rowed out to the middle of the lake to swim). He started swimming over to the boat when he cried out “Oh no! I’ve lost it!” The poor guy spent the next 20 minutes repeatedly diving down to the bottom of the lake (it had to of been 15-20 feet deep), searching for the ring. He was more upset about it than I was. Luckily, it was only a relatively cheap gold band, so it won’t cost too much to replace it.
Anyway, I was at a jewelry store a few days ago and I saw a platinum band that I thought he would like. I’m trying to decide whether to just purchase another gold one to match the one I have, or if I should buy that one instead, or maybe even buying matching platinum bands for both of us. Of course, what I really want is a big fat diamond ring, but we cannot afford that at this time.
Okay, back to our regularly scheduled program…
There is a superstition that if you wear a ring on your left ring finger you’ll never get married. Being superstitious myself I never did, even if I was wearing lots of rings.
My husband doesn’t wear a wedding ring and I didn’t take his last name. I don’t think either one matters. I think that most men would rather not wear one, but the wives insist on it. Waddya think?
I prefer to wear one, though I have not been for a while (gained weight and have not had it resized).
Jeffery
When Omega Red and I were shopping for rings (about a year ago), I told him that I didn’t care if he wanted a ring. If he didn’t want one, it was no big deal to me at all. I know he wouldn’t normally be the type to wear any kind of jewlery, so I was touched that he insisted he wanted one.
His is a 6mm plain gold band, and mine is a 4mm. We both wanted something plain and simple, and those were the sizes that happened to look good on our fingers.