Believe me I wish I could go back and change the day I made that mistake.
Thanks for the info Morgenstern and thanks for the replies. Waiting on a call back from Medi-Cal.
You don’t think this is a little harsh considering what she’s going through right now? You don’t think she hasn’t already thought of this?
sultry, I’m really sorry for your loss and hope everything works out. I can’t help any more than the other posters already have, as usual, but my thoughts go out to you.
Guess something you should consider before offering advice is will this post make me sound like a douche?
First, pretty sure it’s wrong forum for calling me douche.
Second, The OP posts wanting her baby daddy to take responsibility. She’s equally responsible for the choices she has made. It’s a matter of risk management. Decisions have consequences and you should consider those before taking action…even if that’s getting into bed with someone.
** ahem ** Pretty sure there’s no “baby daddy” when there’s, um, no actual baby.
Boy, some people had extra smug-sprinkles on their self-righteousness flakes this morning, didn’t they?
My sympathies to the OP, and I’ll reiterate the “IANAL, reapply for MediCal, forget about the father, you’re pretty much shit out of luck on that count” advice.
Uh, no. The OP wants her “baby daddy” to take some responsibility, not all of it:
My bolding.
Bolding mine. And she asked if he is equally responsible, too. She didn’t ask if he was a good life partner, she didn’t ask if she should have slept with him, she didn’t ask if it’s a good idea to have his baby. She asked if he was just as responsible as she is. Please knock it off.
Who are you to dictate what advice and what advice cannot be given to someone posting on a public message board? :rolleyes:
The OP got knocked up by an apparent no account dick-wad. She wonders if he can be made responsible to help with her medical bills. I only suggest that before she has sex with someone again, maybe she should consider the character of the person she let’s stick their dick into her. If you don’t like that advice, so be it. You don’t have to consider it.
Here’s some advice - your posts make you sound like a dick-wad.
If you want that not to be the case you ahold knock it off. Otherwise please carry on.
OP I’m sorry for your loss - I hope you are able to get the help and information you need.l
Here’s some advice - your posts make you sound like a dick-wad.
If you want that not to be the case you should knock it off. Otherwise please carry on.
OP I’m sorry for your loss - I hope you are able to get the help and information you need.
In theory, it’s also the wrong forum to be one.
Guess what…I don’t post here to please you, Lorax and DianaG. If you’ve got a problem with me…take it to the Pit. Otherwise, I’ll keep posting as I please or until an admin tells me that my opinions are not welcome in this forum.
Hey - be my guest. I don’t give a flying rat’s patootie if you want to make yourself sound like a dick-wad.
Sure got a funny way of showing your ambivalence.
No, you’re certainly not obliged to please me. You do though, for the record. I find no end of amusement at the idea that you so generously offer up “advice” that would, if followed by more women, put rather a dent in your own social life.
When you guys hijack a thread, ya’ll really hijack it don’t you? As much as I like being the center of attention, this really isn’t the thread or the forum for it.
My apologies to the OP that people seem to be more focused on my comments than your issues at hand.
OP, I can’t advise you because I’m not in the US, and don’t quite understand how your medical system works. I think here, you probably wouldn’t be able to make him pay anything, but it’s worth checking what social security type benefits you’re entitled to, and I’m sure you’re looking into that. If there’s an equivalent where you are to the Citizens Advice Bureau (which, in the UK, are a charity who give free advice on civil legal matters and things to members of the public) then you should talk to them, if you don’t talk to anyone else.
I did want to say that I’m very sorry for your loss, and that you shouldn’t pay any attention to the… people passing judgment on your sex life. It’s none of their business, and your question didn’t invite that kind of commentary - nor is it at all relevant to your question. I hope you can find an answer that helps you out.
Sultry, one more wishing you the best.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Since most states don’t recognize a child as a legal entity until after birth, my best non-professional opinion would be that all the bills related to your pregnancy and miscarriage would fall under your insurance. And lacking insurance, they’ll bill you directly. At the risk of sounding crass, financially speaking, it’s akin to having a tumor removed.
I know it seems unfair, but the law can’t bend both ways and give fathers the burden of financial responsibility for a fetus, then denying him decision making authority. If the law viewed a child as a separate, legal being en utero, it would open the door for fathers to seek injunctions against women seeking to abort one of their children.
Once again, disclaimer that it’s not my area of expertise.