I am looking for advice for how to proceed with my mom.
Mom will be 80 this next month. For years, she has struggled with crippling RA and the steady drumbeat of impending alzheimers. Recently, the symptoms of the alzheimers has gotten dangerously worse and we know that she needs to be in a care facility. All of the arrangements are in place.
I have sought advice on how to actually get mom to agree to go. Unfortunately, if she agrees right now, in 15 minutes, all is new and no agreement ever existed.
I truly don’t want to have to take the draconian options of forcing her there. I have been advised to provide a therapeutic lie to get her there. I really despise both of these options.
I suspect that rationalizing with her is not going to be very effective.
Has anyone found an actual good way to do this?