The first 12 weeks, I was too exhausted to think about anything other than eating, sleeping, and working. The past 5 1/2 weeks, hubby has been lucky to get some once every 10 days. I say he’s been lucky, because I just don’t care. Honestly, the pleasure level that I experience during foreplay and sex has taken a huge nose-dive. I don’t even like to be kissed very much, my nipples are too tender to touch, and actual intercourse is just OK. Seriously.
On the other hand, I decided to give self-love a whirl last weekend, and that was just fine! (I hadn’t masturbated in weeks.) Actually, it didn’t take as long as it usually does. :dubious: I can’t figure out what’s up with that.
So, what was your sex drive like when you were pregnant? Or, what’s it like now that you are pregnant? For moms of more than one, was it different with each pregnancy, or the same?
Mine was gone, gone, gone. And then due to nursing, it didn’t really return. I’ve got low libido to begin with, so you shouldn’t take my experience to heart.
Lacking a uterus, I’ve never experienced being pregnant, excepting a sympathy pregnancy with a close friend become girlfriend (I gained 10 pounds during that time).
During the first two months or so, she suffered terrible morning sickness (that lasted all day) and it wasn’t even a consideration. Once that mellowed out though, it became more of a matter of her state of mind. As the pregnancy developed she became more and more convinced that she was unattractive (fairly common in my understanding, despite pregnant women having an amazingly attractive glow about them–but maybe that’s just me), so she wasn’t often in the mood because, like most women, her libido was directly tied in part to her own self-opinion. In other words, she wasn’t willing to have sex if she didn’t feel sexy.
She was generally more willing during the second trimester, and into the third, but by month 8 it was pretty much a no-go; ever. Didn’t even want to think about sex in any way, shape, or form.
Two things she’d mentioned that I’m still curious about, and perhaps someone here could verify/debunk them for me: throughout the pregnancy she was convinced that she tasted different (due to hormonal changes and whatnot), and ultimately bad; and that her orgasms during the pregnancy were more intense. I never noticed any difference in taste, and did my best to reassure her; and obviously I cannot speak about the strength of her orgasms aside from personal observations, but I’m curious if other women would agree or disagree with those two sentiments.
Mine was totally gone after I had her - it’s still not back to normal.
I used to be a horn-dog.
Now, when I get a minute I would rather sleep, or have a bath by myself, or read.
Not very sexy. It doesn’t help that my body isn’t where I’d like it to be, so it’s tough to f*feel * sexy. After all, I don’t even like to see me nekkid, why would anyone else?
Today is a bad day. I’m feeling dumpy and ugly.
I’ll try to post again when I am feeling better about myself.
First trimester I barely had the energy to shower and eat and get dressed. After that, however, things took off. My drive went through the roof- whether by myself or with my husband I definitely got some every day.
Sex was great, especially since pregnancy wasn’t a concern. However, I found the baby kicking during sex to be a bit disconcerting.
I didn’t have the energy to do much of anything the first few months, but I was back to normal after that. I was all for the self-love too, until the time I went to use my vibrator and the baby jumped when it made contact. I was never sure if I’d actually startled her, but I still didn’t use it again until after she was born just to be safe. Didn’t want to give her a complex, ya know.
During my first pregnancy, everything was normal after I got over the first trimester exhaustion. I’m 21 weeks pregnant right now and I’m totally not in the mood. Maybe it’s because I’m taking care of a two year old, also, but I’d be happy just not bothering for awhile. I’m trying to make a good effort a couple times a week, but I just feel distracted and everything sort of hurts and I’d rather be cuddled up in some huge flannel pajamas. inkleberry, I’m with you on the kicking thing. I had that happen last week…I was almost there and kick**kick… oh well.
Heh heh. When that happened, my ex used to quote Life in Hell, when Bongo is standing on front of the couch saying to his parents, “I said, knock it off.”
Except for a two-week period when she had morning sickness, she had the same sex drive as she did before.
Thanks for asking! It’s been on my mind a lot lately, but there’s no one I can tell!
I’m six months into my fourth pregnancy and I think about sex all the time. My sex drive has skyrocketed. I’m more interested in having sex, in masturbating and in watching porn.
The first trimester was pretty blah w/ morning sickness and fatigue, but once that cleared, va-va-voom.
I am pretty sure there wasn’t such a drastic uptick in my first two pregnancies, but I remember something similar (esp. the porn part) in my third pregnancy, but this is the most marked by far.
I suspect pregnancy is coinciding with that mid-30s increase in sex drive you hear about in women that had already started before I got pregnant this time (anybody else have that?)
The porn part is the weirdest. I have almost no interest in porn when I’m not pregnant.