Well, of course you do. I mean, to the point where you are acutely aware of it. To the point of distraction. To the point where you’re at some random point in your day and you formulate a thought along the lines of “I’s Gotsta Have Some.”
Or, is it always a vague, mild sensation that you are semi-aware of.
Just curious.
(btw, I’m interested in a woman’s perspective 'cause I already know the male answer
Yes…and no. Right now I’m 8mos pregnant, and while I still enjoy a good boinking, I’m distracted by the discomfort, heartburn, and etc. so forth and so on that comes with this stage of pregnancy.
I will say I noticed that once I was taken off the Pill and my hormones cycled naturally, I noticed an increase in sexy thoughts, particularly the week before ovulation. I can say that the conception of this child wasn’t exactly planned (I would say so, but hubby sees it as “not trying not to get pregnant”–which to me is planning), but it was easily done. I was wanting some, and could get aroused verrrrry easily just thinking about it.
I still don’t think it reached the obsessive level of thought you’re alluding to, but it still was a darn strong urge. Biology was a-workin’ my system: “Impregnate her, now!” Heh.
Mostly in the week or two prior to ovulation, as has already been mentioned. Post-ovulation, it is more the “vague, mild sensation” you refer to.
(I didn’t realize it was so closely correlated until I started charting my cycles for fertility reasons, sometime in my mid-20s. It was a real light-bulb moment for me, I tell you.)
Babies (4) and nursing took a significant toll on my libido, but two years ago I had a tubal ligation, my husband had a heart attack and my period returned after a year of nursing, almost all at the same time.
I include all of those events because I suspect they had something to do with the significant increase in horniness I’ve experienced, probably also mixed with just getting older. I’ve always heard that women’s sex drive increases as they get older. I’m 40 now, so all those big dealy things happened around 37/38.
These days I’m almost always thinking about sex, have sex almost every day if not prevented by outside events and wonder if this is what it’s like to be a man. On the one hand it’s almost annoying, on the other, it sure is fun. I imagine it might not be so fun if the opportunity to have sex didn’t arrive daily.
In case it isn’t clear, I include my husband’s heart attack as significant because it was a jolting reminder of how precious he is to me and not to take him for granted. He’s recovered very well (he’d have to have, wouldn’t he, if we’re having sex almost every day. You do need your regular exercise)
I just had a memory. One month (before I actually did get pregnant), the pre-ovulation cycle had created a fair amount of natural lube. That created a very, shall we say, pleasant feeling just walking–the labia rubbing together created a natural arousal that eventually made it almost uncomfortable. Hubby had a very nice evening…and so did I.
I’ve had a few moments at work when I thought “hmm…I could do with some sexy time.” Since I’m on the pill, though, my libido has gone down a bit. It hasn’t disappeared completely, but it’s definitely been affected.
No. When young, I might, as they all say, right around ovulation time.
I have been on the pill for years now and am older, so -never. I could, if I found a guy I found attractive and thought there could be a permanent relationship there. Weird yeah.
p.s. In keeping with the threads in cafe society, I have found Adam Lambert hot. Take it as you wsh.
Well, yes, of course. I can certainly imagine that some of the horniness I sometimes feel would, if I were a man, result in a hard-on. I’ve often thought how hard (no puns) it must be for a man in this regard.
However I do think my sexual impulses increase dramatically when I’m actively involved in a sexual relationship. When I’ve been single in the past, I don’t think my sex drive has been quite so noticeable.
I also notice that it varies through my cycle, as it does for my girlfriend (who equates hers with ovulation. Her line is ‘my body wants you to give me a baby now’. Bit tricky, as we’re both girls. But heck, I’ll give it a go!).
Afterthought…I’m nearing 40 now, and have definitely noticed an increased sex drive as I near that rumoured ‘sexual peak’, as have many of my friends.
To the point of distraction? Often. Like, several times daily. More vaguely? Almost constantly. I’ve been told I’m not representative, and I believe that, but I also suspect I’m just more willing to acknowledge it than average.
And honestly, I’d say that the biggest difference between men and women (IME) is that actually *having *sex doesn’t necessarily make the urge go away for long. For guys (friggin’ refractory period), they have an orgasm and it’s like “Awesome, now I can focus on other things for a while. Although maybe a nap or a sandwich would be nice first.” For me, no matter how great the sex was, assuming I’m not absolutely exhausted (which let’s face it, who has that kind of time very often), ten minutes later, I’m like “I could do that again.”
I’ve often thought that if women were anywhere near as horny as men, we’d all still be living in the stone age, because we’d all be too busy fuck’n all the time to learn anything.
I’ve noticed I have the physical desire right before my period starts. It’s a STRONG desire, and if I’m not with anyone I’ll handle matters myself.
I’m not really a very sexual person so I don’t hot just by looking at people or thinking about sex, even with my honey. He has to get me warmed up like an old car.