Women: Do you get horny?

[Beware_of_Doug]

So it’s not triggered by a T shirt with motor oil on it, or a look at your SO’s pay stub?

[Cyn]

The sound of his voice will do it. If we get to texting, I can hardly wait to get home.
Although a look at his “stub” might do it, too.

and I’m surprised how much I enjoy living with a man who makes a lot more money than I do—I never cared about that type of thing when dating and I didn’t know when we met

[Lucky_13]

Oh hell yes. Not so nice in the middle of a dry spell, though.

[alexandra]

@DianaG

To the point of distraction? Often. Like, several times daily. More vaguely? Almost constantly. I’ve been told I’m not representative, and I believe that, but I also suspect I’m just more willing to acknowledge it than average.

And honestly, I’d say that the biggest difference between men and women (IME) is that actually *having *sex doesn’t necessarily make the urge go away for long. For guys (friggin’ refractory period), they have an orgasm and it’s like “Awesome, now I can focus on other things for a while. Although maybe a nap or a sandwich would be nice first.” For me, no matter how great the sex was, assuming I’m not absolutely exhausted (which let’s face it, who has that kind of time very often), ten minutes later, I’m like “I could do that again.”

I read a newspaper piece citing a study that sex for men provides a kind of relief, whereas for women, it has the effect of rising their sex drive. And the flipside of that is the longer a man goes without sexy-times, the more frustrated he gets, whereas for women it lessens with less sexual activity.

Could well be balls as with so much media reporting of scientific studies but it jives with my experience.

[PandaBear77]

To answer the OP, yes. Much more now than in my 20’s (I’m 32).

[shijinn]

i can’t tell if DianaG is complaining or boasting.

[even_sven]

God. Yes. Constantly. I’m single right now, and the frustration just keeps piling up. I’m having trouble concentrating on anything these days.

[MeanOldLady]

The fact that the OP is asking is hilarious.

[drastic_quench]

@DianaG

To the point of distraction? Often. Like, several times daily. More vaguely? Almost constantly. I’ve been told I’m not representative, and I believe that, but I also suspect I’m just more willing to acknowledge it than average.

And honestly, I’d say that the biggest difference between men and women (IME) is that actually *having *sex doesn’t necessarily make the urge go away for long. For guys (friggin’ refractory period), they have an orgasm and it’s like “Awesome, now I can focus on other things for a while. Although maybe a nap or a sandwich would be nice first.” For me, no matter how great the sex was, assuming I’m not absolutely exhausted (which let’s face it, who has that kind of time very often), ten minutes later, I’m like “I could do that again.”

I hear that “not representative” thing. I’m male, heading into my thirties, and I never have that automatic refractory period. For years I thought that was just some pop culture cliché.

[umop_ap_sdn]

Once in a while, yeah it gets to the point of having to take a break from whatever I’m doing. Doesn’t happen very often and there’s usually a reason for it… this thread is kind of having that effect actually.

[BigT]

@MeanOldLady

The fact that the OP is asking is hilarious.

You find that the prevailing culture believing that women do not want sex as much as men to merely be humorous? You are not living up to your name.

[DianaG]

@shijinn

i can’t tell if DianaG is complaining or boasting.

Both, dammit.

@alexandra

I read a newspaper piece citing a study that sex for men provides a kind of relief, whereas for women, it has the effect of rising their sex drive. And the flipside of that is the longer a man goes without sexy-times, the more frustrated he gets, whereas for women it lessens with less sexual activity.

That rings true to me as well. My friends who go long through long dry spells tell me that after a few months, it’s like “Gee, some sex sure would be nice.” and then they just go on with their day. For me, if it’s been a week, I’m like “I could really use some sex rightabout now”, whereas if it’s been a day, I’m like “MORE SEX, NOW!” I remember a character on a television show (I’m mildly embarrassed to say that I think it was Grey’s Anatomy) finally gettin’ some after a long time, and complaining that now she’d “woken the beast”.

[Freudian_Slit]

@MsWhatsit

LORD YES.

Mostly in the week or two prior to ovulation, as has already been mentioned. Post-ovulation, it is more the “vague, mild sensation” you refer to.

(I didn’t realize it was so closely correlated until I started charting my cycles for fertility reasons, sometime in my mid-20s. It was a real light-bulb moment for me, I tell you.)

Me too. Oh me too. But for me sometimes there’s like feeling it in my head in terms of imagining stuff or people I want to do/be with. And then there’s just the feeling that I MUST DO IT NOW which is the ovulation thing. It’s almost painful–like very blue balls (lips?)-esque.

[MeanOldLady]

@BigT

You find that the prevailing culture believing that women do not want sex as much as men to merely be humorous? You are not living up to your name.

I find it hilarious that the notion is apparently so prevailing that we have a male here actually asking if women ever get “FUCK ME!” horny. Ain’t he never met a woman before?

[whiterabbit]

Given that this is an online message board…it’s funny but not surprising that the question has (ahem) arisen.

To answer the question, occasionally, but not constantly. It’s been a while. When I’ve been in a relationship I’m like “SEX! NOW! MUST HAVE SEX!” often, pretty much every time I see the person in question.

[LegendHasit]

yes. Yes. YES!

[anya_marie]

[Trepa_Mayfield]

@Pulp_Friction

(btw, I’m interested in a woman’s perspective 'cause I already know the male answer

:rolleyes:

I’m a guy and I feel the latter.

[badbadrubberpiggy]

Yup. Pretty much when you’d expect it, in terms of my cycle, too - my body wants sex the most when it’s around the time I could get pregnant.

[melodyharmonius]

@conurepete

Are you kidding? I’m married. Almost all the time

Wait - you’re married almost all of the time? When are you not married? And what’s your number?

@badbadrubberpiggy

Yup. Pretty much when you’d expect it, in terms of my cycle, too - my body wants sex the most when it’s around the time I could get pregnant.

See, now, I’m most horny when it’s “too late” to get pregnant. Like literally the day before I used to get my period I have to have sex or my jack.

And I have to have my jack every day I’m not with my bf. every. day.

And sometimes I go to the bathroom here at work and take care of stuff.