By definition, any woman that I would be interested in dating would be the type who would find the fashionability (or lack thereof) of my ensemble completely irrelevant.
:rolleyes:
[QUOTE=Hoops]
How about Guayabera shirts (assuming not the kind embroidered with martinis or dice)?
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Those are just dandy. Not work-like, not formal, not a tee shirt, just a nice casual comfortable looking shirt.
Personally, I wouldn’t care if you wore them with cords, jeans or khakis, but apparently some would.
[QUOTE=astro]
That article is retarded in suggesting jeans on a first date with an unknown woman, but they are correct about khakis. You shouldn’t wear khakis unless you can carry the look, and unfortunately these days khakis are (to be honest) a somewhat tired look that screams “low level service worker”.
If you’re gay or a rock star jeans are OK, but jeans on a first time hetero date is (IMO) a bit too risky if you’re seeking to make a good impression and don’t know what the ladies fashion preferences are.
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It’s all about appropriateness. Personally, I couldn’t care less if the guy is wearing jeans, khakis, or whatever, as long as a) they are clean and appropriately unwrinkled, b) they fit properly; c) they only have holes where they were designed to have holes; and d) whatever he is wearing is appropriate for the chosen activity.
I’ve had guys show up on first dates with pants that looked like they were going to fall off at the knees, because the holes went almost all the way around the circumference of the leg. I’ve had guys show up for a first date (Saturday night dinner at a nice restaurant) in shorts grubby from hiking in the woods all day, and gym shoes with holes. And of course, I’ve had guys who showed up for first dates looking (and smelling) like they hadn’t bathed in at least a week.
Really, guys, I’m not that picky about appearances, but you should at least look like you care whether I find you repulsive.
[QUOTE=Eva Luna]
It’s all about appropriateness. Personally, I couldn’t care less if the guy is wearing jeans, khakis, or whatever, as long as a) they are clean and appropriately unwrinkled, b) they fit properly; c) they only have holes where they were designed to have holes; and d) whatever he is wearing is appropriate for the chosen activity.
I’ve had guys show up on first dates with pants that looked like they were going to fall off at the knees, because the holes went almost all the way around the circumference of the leg. I’ve had guys show up for a first date (Saturday night dinner at a nice restaurant) in shorts grubby from hiking in the woods all day, and gym shoes with holes. And of course, I’ve had guys who showed up for first dates looking (and smelling) like they hadn’t bathed in at least a week.
Really, guys, I’m not that picky about appearances, but you should at least look like you care whether I find you repulsive.
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Dirty, sloppy, clueless…where the hell are you finding these guys? Seriously! Virtually all the guys I know would be try to be immaculate before a first date. Try match.com.
[QUOTE=badbadrubberpiggy]
I mean, it’s not like he showed up in a sweater with bunnies on it, or anything. 
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Hey! What if it’s my first date with alice_in_wonderland? Some women find bunnies very attractive.
Bunny hater.
[QUOTE=The Weird One]
I like guys who dress in a way that reflects their personal tastes, not the latest “how to date” blather on MSN.
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Hear, hear!
The same shit is translated into Spanish and put up in msn.es, printed in Spanish mags, etc. My brother started a game a while back of trying to figure out whether an article was “locally written” or “imported” from the kind of stupidity it says.
In Spain, khakis are almost formalwear. looks around her office Over 50 guys. No suits. Half a dozen guys in trousers-other-than-jeans (white, khaki, drak brown). More women than men. One wears a skirt; the rest, jeans. And this office is formal by Spanish standards! Nobody in shorts even though it’s the summer, see… formal.
Wait a second.
Is the guy driving a hummer?
What’s wrong with khakis?
[QUOTE=Shirley Ujest]
Wait a second.
Is the guy driving a hummer?
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Hee!
I hate lists like this. If a man follows this advice, he’s not being himself. What if the second date, he shows up looking and/or smelling like he should be one of poor Eva Luna’s rejects? Pathetic, I tell you.
(Really, the world’s first Agnostic Jewish Nun is supposed to be celibate, anyway.)
Looking at this article, it looks like somebody was desperate to make their deadline.
Not enough rolleyes for this crap.
Okay, how’s this?
I have a first date, but after work, an hour or so after a meeting downtown. I won’t have the time to go home and change. I’m wearing a dark purple/lavender button-down shirt, no ties, somewhat pricey khakis (made in the US, not Dockers imported from China), and oxfords. No jewelery or cologne. We’re meeting at a brewpub. Is my clothing inappropriate?
So no striped or khaki condoms, got it.
[QUOTE=elmwood]
Okay, how’s this?
I have a first date, but after work, an hour or so after a meeting downtown. I won’t have the time to go home and change. I’m wearing a dark purple/lavender button-down shirt, no ties, somewhat pricey khakis (made in the US, not Dockers imported from China), and oxfords. No jewelery or cologne. We’re meeting at a brewpub. Is my clothing inappropriate?
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FWIW, I don’t think so. Especially since you’re going there straight from work.
(Even if you weren’t, I wouldn’t have a problem with what you’re wearing. It’s not like it’s a formal affair.)
[QUOTE=Eva Luna]
It’s all about appropriateness. Personally, I couldn’t care less if the guy is wearing jeans, khakis, or whatever, as long as a) they are clean and appropriately unwrinkled, b) they fit properly; c) they only have holes where they were designed to have holes; and d) whatever he is wearing is appropriate for the chosen activity.
I’ve had guys show up on first dates with pants that looked like they were going to fall off at the knees, because the holes went almost all the way around the circumference of the leg. I’ve had guys show up for a first date (Saturday night dinner at a nice restaurant) in shorts grubby from hiking in the woods all day, and gym shoes with holes. And of course, I’ve had guys who showed up for first dates looking (and smelling) like they hadn’t bathed in at least a week.
Really, guys, I’m not that picky about appearances, but you should at least look like you care whether I find you repulsive.
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Ditto on appropriate.
I once met a guy (way back in the early 90s) at a country dance club (I know…I know) in Fort Lauderdale. Tall good looking guy, with more than a passing resemblance to Trace Adkins today. He was wearing leather pants & a cowboy duster (again - I know…I know - my tastes have changed) and looked absolutely perfectly appropriate for the venue. We hit it off & exchanged numbers. A few days later, he called & invited me to a pool party & I accepted.
He picks me up for the pool party wearing the EXACT SAME LEATHER PANTS & CANVAS DUSTER!!! :eek: August. Fort Lauderdale. Need I say more?
I’m still not over it - lol
VCNJ~
For an after-work date, absolutely wear what you wore to work.
[QUOTE=twickster]
For an after-work date, absolutely wear what you wore to work.
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But don’t forget to add the ass-less chaps.
[QUOTE=Surly Chick]
But don’t forget to add the ass-less chaps.
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I’m sorry. Chaps (ass-less or not) and Dockers do not go together.
[QUOTE=Sunspace]
I’m sorry. Chaps (ass-less or not) and Dockers do not go together.
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And you wonder why you can’t get laid. 
[QUOTE=Sunspace]
I’m sorry. Chaps (ass-less or not) and Dockers do not go together.
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How about skipping the chaps altogether and going with a pair of ass-less Dockers?
F*** it, I’m wearing a skirt on my next date.
Personally, I always go with the dark jeans/button-down shirt in an interesting color/casual-yet-dressy-jacket look.
Shoes optional.