Okay, so if you don’t know, my sister is an out-and-out (though not big or fat) radical feminist lesbian. She had a daughter at age 16, and moved in with a woman who had three daughters. After her partner died, she raised the four children as a single mother.
One of the daughters has a daughter raised in a traditional family (mother and father). She is now grown and simply unable to get her life together. She recently gave birth to twin daughters, and social services was threatening to take the babies away. She indicated she did not want to give them up for adoption, but she felt she had no other options.
In stepped my sister and her wife, who have absolutely no legal obligation to the mother. However, these lesbians are willing to take in the mother and daughters, provided the mother gives up her nonsense and goes to college next semester, which she has agreed to do. They will support them for a year, but only if she gets herself together.
Cheers to the two. And foo to all the people who say “They’re lesbians. They shouldn’t be able to do this.”
Yes, the mother is going to college in exchange for free room and board for her and her children. She understands that if she fucks up in any way, she is out and the lesbians will fight to keep the twins.
ETA: And remember, the couple is under no legal obligation to the mother and twins. It’s a purely unselfish act. They took in two daughters and their terminally ill mother a while back, and got to legal adopt the children after the mother died.
Good luck to them, however, forcing people to go to college who don’t have the maturity, attention span or intellectual skills to succeed can be a set up for failure regardless of good intentions. It’s not a cure all. I speak from experience here.
Not really.
They are parenting either their grandchildren or great-grandchildren (OP isn’t clear). So from an evolutionary viewpoint, they are helping their bloodline to succeed.
Still a pretty awesome thing to do.
Much better than being a Judge in Utah!
Wait, she raised a daughter whom she now admits is a nut and yet she claims to be this awesome parent that should raise the grandchildren?
What, did she suddenly change?
No, I dont think this is a good idea.
And yes, I know your going to hate me for saying this but I feel a child should have a mother and a father and there are tons of couples out there who would love to adopt.
Annie’s sister “Amy” raised her own daughter and three step-daughters on her own after her partner died. One of those step-daughters was “Bianca”.
Bianca is in a standard straight relationship and raised her daughter, Celeste, with her husband.
Celeste is the troubled new single parent of “Daphne” and “Daisy”. Amy and her partner are adopting D&D and supporting C financially for a year while she gets her life together. Amy is taking in the granddaughter and great granddaughter of her long dead former partner, not any bio-descendant of her own.
That’s really going above and beyond. The girls who lost their mother at such a young age were very blessed to have Annie’s sister there to look out for them, and she’s still doing it two generations later. Incredible.
Well, no. If I’m reading the OP correctly (and she may wish to clarify this matter since there seems to be some confusion), the Troubled College Student is the granddaughter of her sister’s deceased partner, who was raised by deceased-partner’s daughter and her own biological father. The children being raised by the OP’s sister and her current wife are thus the great-grandchildren of the deceased partner.
So no, Sister didn’t raise Troubled College Student; she raised TCS’s mother after the death of TCS’ grandmother.
Not really thread shitting in this case. OP in part positioned scenario as response to this who do not agree with lesbian families. Urbanredneck’s opinion may not be welcome or particularly enlightened but it’s a valid statement of a difference of opinion in the context of the OP which, in part, addressed people who hold that that opinion.
