A mother whose son was killed in Afghanistan june 2011 will on 21 feb receive a full apology from the british army.
Her son never registered her as next of kin, which the army then does not recognize her as family, mother. This means she wont receive a penny from the MOD, but she has no say in her sons funeral, this generally happens to divorced fathers, what is more upsetting is she has a rare uncurable cancer. What are your opinions of what should happen. Even now she has no idea where he is buried.
Reported for forum change.
Moved to MPSIMS while I try to figure out if this is legit.
Why is it that when I saw this thread title, immediately I thought of the colonial-era British army, not the current one?
Have you been infected by the Daily Mail Virus?
Maybe it was intentional on part of the deceased.
That was my first thought, as well. Lots of people out there who don’t want anything to do with their parents, for a lot of reasons. Some of them very good reasons.
Some say the Devil is dead…
The greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing the world he did not exist.
This. I know quite a few people who have “divorced” their parents and/or other family members and want absolutely nothing to do with them, often for very good reasons. My first question is “why did the deceased not list his mother as next of kin?”
I can’t see how it is accidently possible not to list someone as your next of kin.
You have to fill in these forms many many times in the course of service. You do it just to sign on for promotion courses, you do it every year, you do it if you renew your contract, you do it for every foreign deployment. In addition whenever you change base your details are checked, there are just so many occasions when you have to confirm your next of kin in the forces.
Some information appears to be missing here, the true story for one.
I tend to agree with Casdave.
If the soldier never listed the mother as next of kin, why would the British Armed Forces need to make an apology? I can not see how she has been treated badly.
I don’t know how the British Army works now, but why would the mother expect any money for his death anyway?
I would add that I was an active member of the Shot at Dawn Campaign (SAD) to pardon mainly UK servicemen shot for cowardice during the Great War. I do have a lot of sympathy for them, but this story doesn’t add up for me.
(I have no idea why the mother having an incurable cancer would have any bearing).
It was the idiot son who treated her badly. The Army just acceded to the deceased’s wishes.
For all we know she treated her son badly - we don’t know if she’s a wonderful woman ignored by her son, or a sweet-voiced monster who abused him daily. We’re not getting the full story here.
What we need to know for a start is just who *was *registered as next of kin, and why they didn’t make the mother a party to her son’s funeral.
Edited to say I use “need” in the sense of to make sense of this story, actually of course, we don’t need to know anything about this.
This. I know of a lot of people (some on this board) who had horrid parents, and who want nothing to do with them.
My husband wanted nothing to do with his biodad, and refused to go see him as an adult. His biodad wasn’t a monster…but he was definitely a rotten human being.
You have no idea if this is true. Mom might have gotten exactly what she deserved.
Idiot in that he did not make the proper entry to avoid this thing.
She was treated ‘badly’,meaning she had no great joy in the affair; though I’m not even going to guess who is to blame.
Ergo, it is true. What she deserved, or what is ‘fair’ is no point of my post.
Well, then why are you referring to the serviceman as an idiot, when he very well may have meant her to be treated “badly”? Do you have more information than the rest of us do?
The rest of us done’t even have a link. A rare form of incurable cancer? Either a tragic coincidence, or mom’s angling for some survivor benefits – possibly she’s already tried to sell him for spare parts.