After seeing how upset I was (thanks to the thread above), Mr Cazzle went to see his stepfather, and mentioned that I was very sick after eating there.
Tonight, MIL rang to wish me a happy birthday, and steered the conversation to the issue of my health. She showed a lot of concern over me, and said she was sorry I was feeling so bad on Monday. She then offered to take Mr Cazzle and I out to dinner tonight, her shout.
Well, after being such a cranky, whingy, sooky little misery-guts earlier in the week, I feel so much better tonight. MIL seemed upset that lasagne had made me sick, and most upset that I had to take a day off work, and so I hope this experience will change future menus in her home. I also feel better about her feelings towards me - there’s nothing that feels so much like rejection as people not seeming to take you into consideration. The fact that she’s making the effort here to do something so nice for me makes me feel like a valued member of the family again.
In short, I’m feeling happy. And bring on the birthday wishes! I love having birthdays
Hey, that’s cool. Some people (MIL) need tangible proof before they believe your health problems- I’ve experienced that myself. Glad things are on the up and up.
I have a suggestion: I’d drop her a note. First, to thank her for dinner. Second, to thank her for inquiring about your health, basically saying that you appreciate the concern she showed and that it means a lot to you.
It may give her the warm fuzzies enough to make the incident stick in her head and prepare better for the next event. Just a thought!
