She’s not wasting my * time, because I agree with her. You do come across * as a misogynistic asshole. Whether you are or not in real life is unimportant on the message boards.
I’m not *offended * by you, I don’t even know you, but yeah, sure…I’d be wary of you in real life. And I usually ignore your posts (not the ignore list, just by myself).
I feel like **Maureen ** is getting unfairly jumped in this thread. I just wanted to let her know there is at least one other female who agrees with her.
Thanks, Anaamika. You too, Guin. But honestly, that post of msmith’s is one of a few of his I don’t take seriously. I’m not wasting anyone’s time, chucklehead. Everyone who has posted here has done so because they wanted to. I’m not the only person (male or female) who feels you should ratchet back some of the blatant sexism in your posts. You construe it that way because it suits your purpose to not change your habits. shrug Up to you. But I’d advise you to be prepared to defend yourself again, because you’ve offended several people.
Obviously, I can’t prove to you that I don’t expect men to fall and worship at my feet. But I will say for the record that it’s a patently absurd statement. What I do want, and what I insist on, is respect as a person. Not to be generalized, or lumped in with what you consider to be “normal.” And I will call you on it every time you are thick witted enough to do it. I don’t care how well educated you are. You’re still an ignorant knuckle dragging trog.
On preview, thanks to Rilchiam, too.
Lonesome Polecat, do you like Pete’s Wicked Ale? I work not far from the pub.
I’m sorry, but all the arrows slung at msmith537 appear to be over the top, and posters are trying to read into what he has to say without really examining the context.
For example in the first line where he asks HSHP if he is a fucking child, he gets chided for a personal attack. A clear reading can only suggest that this is no attack at all but a characterization of how HSHP is being treated by the gf. Unfortunately this will go into the record as a warning and be used against him in the future.
A reading of the second paragraph lists experiences that a lot of guys can relate to. Perhaps his choice of the word “EVERY” set off some alarm bells but I certainly didn’t take it as a problem. Relationships and marriage are successful when they are in ballance. Considering roughly 50% of marriages end in divorce, it would suggest that a majority of marriages are not in ballance. A man who allows his SO to dominate will be dominated. That also works in reverse. Lets face it, our SOs are never exactly the way we want them to be. We will all test our power in the relationship, and if we can gain control to influence our immediate environment, we will. msmith was posting man to man. It was not incumbant upon him to expand this concept into a broader thesis. The situation that HSHP finds himself in is quite alarming and he was responded to by msmith in a manner to wake him up.
The final paragraph speaks to me as well. In my early single years I had a gorgeous girlfriend who treated me like shit. I didn’t quite realize it at the time, but I was so afraid of losing her that we did everything she wanted to do. I was very insecure.
I know a lot of married men. Loss of independance seems to be very common. Its joked about quite often. My wife hates my favourite chair and is always uncomfortable when I go out with the guys. But she still lets me and I still have my favourite chair. God but I do love her !
msmith makes it a habit to make sweeping generalizations about women like that. It wasn’t the first time; maybe it will be the last.
Too bad about all those pesky women that read these boards too?
I note you say it’s very common, but you don’t say it happens to every single man who has ever gotten married. And you have my sympathy if you really mean that your wife “lets” you go out with the guys (I note the italics - I don’t care much for the idea of anybody “letting” another adult do anything). There are better-balanced relationships in the world, even if you and msmith haven’t seen them yet.
Oh, and all you guys who are numbering yourselves - you have to increase it by at least one, because I said I was 100% behind Maureen in this pitting back on page three, I think it was.
I took it as a problem. In fact, that single word is probably responsible for this entire pitting. Had msmith said “some,” “a lot of,” “many,” or pretty much any other qualifier, I wouldn’t have a problem with it. Yes, many women are like that, and it’s okay to say so. But I’ve worked very hard at NOT being one of them, and I strongly resent anyone lumping me in with them.
, well no shit sherlock. add the fact (contextually at that) that he chose to emphasize the word by capitalizing the word, and we can reasonably conclude that he meant every. single. one.
hence a justifiable pitting.
Signed,
yet another female who doesn’t do that shit and resents being lumped in with nimrods who do.
