Mundane love woes

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I just wanted to type out what’s on my mind, and considering that I don’t have any friends, I thought I’d share it right here.

So I had a “date” with a guy on Friday night. He’s amazing – beautiful, intelligent, funny, sweet… I had a wonderful time, and I think he had a nice time, too. At the end he gave me a hug and told me to give him a call sometime.

So I thought it wouldn’t be the coolest thing to call him an hour later, so I waited a day and a half. He wasn’t home so I left a somewhat stilted message thanking him for such a good time and here’s my number if he’d like to do something again sometime.

And he hasn’t called back… And now I’m being all stupid and paranoid like those dumb girls who lie on their beds staring at the phone and eating Ben and Jerry’s. It disturbs me how easily I can become infatuated with somebody… It hasn’t been four days since we first met and already I’ve fantasized about living together, getting a cat, being monogamous, etc, etc. It’s so crazy.

I’m just hoping he hasn’t checked his messages or was away for the weekend or something. I hope he likes me. Why is it so difficult for two people to simultaneously like one another romantically? Maybe it’s not. But for me it seems to be.

Thanks for listening. :slight_smile:

Oh my god I just reread this thing and it sounds so pathetic. “I hope he likes me; he told me to call him; blah blah blah blah blah.” If this were written to some advice columnist I’m sure he/she would reply with “Dear Qazzz, get a life. Telling someone to give a call is basically the same as saying ‘I’m not interested you big fat ugly loserhead.’ Do some volunteer work and find somebody more in your league.” :frowning:

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I do the same goddamn thing. I think everybody does, so don’t worry about it.

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I hate dating. I think I’ll just not do it anymore.

I also hate the feeling that you are giving so much more of yourself than the other person in the relationship. That sucks.

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Dating sucks.

At least you met him before you started fantasizing about a rosy future – I don’t, always. Effin’ IM flirtations.

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I hope he calls. Let us know if he does!

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nothing like THAT particular situation to make you feel alone in the world. I, for one, am honored that you shared with us. It will all work out for the best. If he doesn’t call back he’s a flake and not worth your time. you deserve better.

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It’s stuff like this, and relationship stuff in general, that makes me sorta understand why someone would become a hermit.

It pretty much makes us all mental.

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Yes, dating sucks. They make it look all fun and comedy-filled on TV, but when you try it in real life, it pretty much suck-diddely-ucks.

Hopefully he was gone for the weekend, (three day weekend after all), and he calls this evening.

Good luck.

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:frowning: That sucks…maybe he was gone for the weekend. Or maybe he’s just stupid but you know we all go through it.

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Another vote for dating sucks. I do hope he calls you though. :slight_smile:

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Hang in there. If not him, then the next one will call.

I’ve been to the edge of giving up, and the answer - for me - has always been a really good book.

Of course, most guys see my bookcase and run, screaming, out of the house …