If others can do it, I should be able to do it.
Yeah, maybe. But just because people do it, doesn’t mean it’s appreciated. And, frankly, it’s the extreme quantity of drivel you post here is what’s so astounding. You seem to be one of those people who has no filter between your thoughts and your mouth (or in this case, keyboard). Not everything you think needs to be shared with thirty-five-fucking-thousand people. That’s why I said, "stop posting so much; I didn’t say stop posting.
Jus’ tellin’ ya, man. You’re headed for the bottom of one mutha of a pile on. I’ve seen it happen here dozens of times and you fit that mold perfectly.
Allright. I’m changing my posting methods from now on. I know I got upset too many times already. I’m going to try to not let my emotions rule my posting behavior anymore.
Well then. Good luck with that. And thank you.
Dearest Gingerofthenorth…Now how do you know that I was using “gay” in a deragatory way??? How do you know that I didn’t mean he was a Happy Douche Bag? I have absolutely no problem w/gay people. I have some very close friends who are gay and love them to pieces. If you haven’t noticed lately that “gay” is a very loosely used term. My 14 y/o son and all his friends use it all the time. Usually something like this…“Mom, that is so gay”…all it means now is that something is stupid, retarded, not hip whatever. It is not always used as you are insinuating that i used it. But hey, thanks for the heads up but it won’t stop me from using it, sorry. Aub
When your son is using the word like that, he’s using it in a deragotory way. When you use the word like that, it’s in a deragatory way. When you use the word retarded like you did just above, that’s deragatory.
Don’t do it. Don’t do it in life and try to set an example for your son. Don’t do it on the board, I can assure you you’ll have much more productive interactions with the wonderfull people of this board if you don’t use it.
Nah. Let Aubrey use the word how he/she wants.
Then, when someone is being an idiotic bigoted jerk, we can say “What an Aubrey.”
Whatami…i totally respect what you are saying. Never said that it wasn’t a deragotory remark, just that it wasn’t used in the way that someone had insinuated. My son is an excellent kid, couldn’t ask for better. He has been raised very well and I am extremely proud of him. He is an excellent student and athlete. Well respected by his teachers and peers. All teens have there little “sayings” if you will. Just wanted to let you know that I do hear what you are saying and respect your concern. I do set a fine example for my children. They don’t read these boards so I am really not concerned about “setting an example” for them here.
And dearest Sauron…bite me!
I just don’t even have the words.
Oh, come on, Aubrey, I’m hoping you’re not that naieve, you’re raising children after all, and they will populate the world soon meaning that we will have to deal with them. The genesis of the term “gay” as in insult is rooted in the antiquated idea that there was something wrong with homosexuals. Saying “Silly, I didn’t mean it that way” is meaningless. The word “gay”, when used as an insult, is LOADED with homophobic overtones. I seriously doubt that you could get away with “I didn’t mean it that way” if you called someone a nigger or a kike. Gay is no different. Perhaps you should teach this to your son.
Aubrey, your kid sounds so gay!
Weirddave…you obviously don’t have teenagers do you? Or maybe you just don’t spend enough time with them if you do. That has to be the most overused slang term today. They do not use it to mean homosexual. Get over it, I am the least homophobic person there is.
I hope I haven’t offended you, Aubrey. I have this terribly bad habit of judging people based on how they present themselves – their words, actions, beliefs, etc. Sure, it takes more time than just lumping them into preconceived stereotypes, but what can I say?
So, with that in mind, let’s re-examine my assessment of you, shall we?
Where to begin … well, the beginning is always a good place, wouldn’t you agree? Let’s see, I believe the first assessment was “idiotic.” Now, how did I arrive at this conclusion? You use the word “gay” as a derogatory remark. That is borderline idiotic in and of itself, but not enough to slap the “idiot” label on someone in my book. No, we must look for more. And, fortunately, you provided us with more grounds for the label in your very next post:
What a breathtaking display of idiocy! Really! I must congratulate you. Give me a moment to break down the monumental examples of idiocy and outright bigotry in those few lines:
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[li] A combined usage of “I like gay people” and “Some of my best friends are gay” defenses. Double word score for that![/li][li] At attempt at validation of your behavior by comparing it to that of a 14-year-old. This may shock you, but not many advancements in the field of polite human interactions have been made by 14-year-old boys.[/li][li] Perhaps my favorite: After insinuating that you weren’t using the word “gay” in a derogatory way, you come up with an “acceptable” definition – “Something that is retarded, stupid, or not hip.” Because, of course, calling something “retarded, stupid or not hip” is in no way derogatory. This equation of “gay” with “retarded, stupid or not hip” is what earned you the “bigot” appellation.[/li][li] And, breathtakingly, the coup de grace of your idiocy (and, frankly, what pushed you into the “Jerk” realm for me) was the closing sentence: “… thanks for the heads up but it won’t stop me from using it, sorry.” So you’ve been made aware that your behavior and/or actions are considered inappropriate on this board, and yet you refuse to change. Tell me, were I to visit your house and begin urinating on your floor, would you be upset if I refused to stop?[/ul][/li]
You’re pissing on this board. Stop.
You’re such an Aubrey.
I wonder if we can popularize saying “Aubrey” where we really mean “gaping axe-gash” to the point where it’s not offensive.
Since when is ignorance of the terms definition a defence in its usage?
:rolleyes:
Don’t be such an Aubry…
No, you don’t respect what I’m saying. If you did, you’d say “Gee, I didn’t realize that would offend people. I’m sorry for using it and I think I’ll try to teach my son not to use it.”
I didn’t want a biography of your son, I just want you to educate you (fighting ignorance is the main purpose of this board you know).
what in the world did this all of a sudden become a gay debate?
Yea, I saw, you’ve got tons of gay friends, how enlightened. :rolleyes:
Fact is, when my son used the term “gay” as an insult, in that same “overused slang way”, I corrected him, explained why it was not a word to be used, and as far as I’ve heard since, he hasn’t. Just because something is overused by a group of kids dosen’t mean that you shouldn’t correct your child when he uses it. I ask again, would you make the same defense of another derogitory word for a group of people, like nigger or kike or wop or whatever, claiming it’s “no big deal” because it’s an overused term?
Good luck Aubrey! You’re off to a great start! (And I don’t even have teenage kids!)
By the way, the statement “I’m the least homophobic person there is” is pretty bold, considering you’ve already offended more than a handful of posters with your derogatory remarks.
As a gay man myself, I am aghast at how you could say “gay douce bag” and not expect people to think you are using the word “gay” in a derogatory manner. If you didn’t claim you had kids, I would have thought you were 14 years old yourself! Go around to your supposed gay friends and ask them whether they find it offensive themselves. I sincerely hope you will be surprised by their answers.
I’m just stunned that you use a term that is used to describe a segment of our society and define it to mean “stupid, retarded (an offensive term in an of itself), not hip, or whatever.” By your usage, you irrevocably link the two. Are you as complacent when people (such as your son) use racist or sexist epithets in such a negative or pejorative way?
I sincerely urge you to reconsider your usage of “gay” in the way you did. You’ll find that it is an offensive term when used in polite company.
JOhn.