I’m so sorry 
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Wow. I am so sorry. Consider yourself hugged.
I am sorry for your loss.
I lost my brother on last U.S. Thanksgiving day, after about a year of watching him succumb to cancer. My deepest sympathies for your loss.
{{{Hugs}}} from me and Spiny Norman, too.
There are no words. I hope you find peace, but in the meantime, feel free to vent, cry, rage or do whatever you have to.
{{{TPWombat}}}
I’m very sorry to hear that. Please take care of yourself!
{{{MEGA HUG}}}
I’m sorry. Good luck with dealing with whatever comes up - that’s really all there is to say.
You and your family have my sympathies and will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Also, my email address is in my profile, if you need someone to vent to. I know I’m a stranger, but I’ll listen.
{{{{{TPWombat}}}}}}}
Be good, take care of yourself, and argh.
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There’s nothing I can do for you from here but hold you in my thoughts. My condolences.
{{{{TPW}}}}
Posted just before I crashed.
Just got up and there’s 30 replies here.
Thank you all so much.
People die all the time. I’m in unashamedly selfish mode right now tho.
Thank you for reading this, thanks for being there. Thanks for the kind offers of a shoulder to cry/vent on.
You guys just fucking rock 
The children and Helen his ex-wife have a wonderful circle of people to help and support.
I’m going to take them to La Tosca when I can. It’s a local Tapas restaurant that he used to take them to. Heh. The waiters always look on in bemusement as they ignore the hamburger menu and eat their way thru huge quantities of olive and squid. Then maybe we’ll see Spiderman. And they’ll eat their way thru a metric tonne of hot dogs and popcorn.
Oh bugger.
Thanks, guys.
I don’t know how to get in touch with his Spanish ex-girlfriend, Mena. If anyone knows how I can crack into his AOL account I would really appreciate an email. Do not post such info on this board, please.
Metaphysical bit :
I know he’s not dead. He’s just not in that particular body any more. I shed no tears for him, he has no need of them. They’re for me and his loved ones.
I feel no anger or resentment about this. In a weird way that’s kind of a piss-off. What do you do when you know it’s ok but it’s fucking not ok???
This cracks me up, and I’ll be saying it at the funeral :
Nothing’s forgetten. Nothing’s ever forgotten. Not Ever.
The smallest thing. The crook of an eyebrow. The way they said “Oh, bugger”.
Fuck. It’s beautiful, it’s all ok, and it sucks.
Thank you all for being there.
And rightfully so.
I’m so sorry. My condolences to you and the rest of your family.
BTW, Why didn’t I know???
I hear stories all the time about how someone had a feeling or a tingle or whatever when someone they loved was in trouble.
I didn’t feel a fucking thing. Nothing. I had no idea. Even rushing to the hospital tho I was crying him really leaving the planet was not a real option.
Anything you want to share on this point would be welcome, regardless of religious orientation.
No reply necessary on this one, figure it’s unanswerable.
TPWombat, you sound like the best brother Tim could ever have wished for.
I wish you and your family lots of strength. Take care, man.
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I hope you and your family find the strength to get through this.
My condolences.
I’m very sorry for your loss. Sending my condolences and best wishes to you and your family as you struggle through this difficult time.