I used to have some of the greatest friends my whole life, and recently, that has been going down hill. I am in the 9th grade and want to take a different approach to the rest of my life than being immature and dumb all the time, like my friends. My friends are mad at me because I decided not to talk to them during class and don’t want to hear perverted jokes 24/7. I have tried to tell them how I feel, but nothing has worked. Most of them make suicidal threats, but get mad when I want to talk about it or suggest telling someone. They all talk bad about me behind my back, but if I talk to anyone but them to get away from all thier paranoia and lack of a respect to a friend who tried to keep all these friendships together, they get so mad that they make threats to kill me! One of them writes poems about how bad she likes to kill people she hates, and frequently they talk about it at lunch. I am trying to develope a life with Christ, and they discourage me. They laugh at me when I say that I want a life with Christ, and say things like, “There is no way that fits you.” I guess I don’t know what to do. I am at a point where I wish I had somewhere else to go or someone else to talk to. I feel bad when I am around them, and even worse when I am not. They are the only friends I have right now, and I am in a dilemma. I need peoples’ suggestions, what should I do?
They don’t really sound like great friends if they’ve threatened to kill you… I wouldnt worry about them to much if they said something like that to me, try breaking away from that group slowly and start talking to people who are more like you, try joining some clubs or groups to make some new friends.
Good Luck
It’s very hard when you start to grow away from your friends. Give them time. If they don’t grow in the same direction you are, please try to find other friends, perhaps through your church. If they are acting out against you, they are not your friends. Good luck, this is a very tough age for you, but believe me, it does get better. But it takes time. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
They’re not acting like friends.
Friends don’t discourage you from something that would make your life happier.
It sounds like you are maturing before the people you hang with, are.
The decision is yours, but I would move on with my life, with or without them.
That choice is up to them.
Sounds like you’re maturing past these people, but you’re kinda in a “social lull” before finding your place among new, better-suited company.
It’s hard. But it DOES get better.
I agree with these folks here – the people you describe aren’t friends. They’re struggling with some deep-seated problems, and you might want to avoid getting dragged down with them.
Keep an emotional distance from these people, if you can, and seek out some new friends that “fit” you better. It takes time, but you’ll get there.
All the best.