My father is a fool

Blalron, I feel your pain. My dad has a user girlfriend–she hangs out with him right after he gets paid and then disappears after he’s used up all his money on her. He knows it too–but he says he’s lonely. I can understand the feeling, but I wish he would find someone or something else to keep him occupied. Someone or something that doesn’t bleed him dry and leave him with no money.

Just because our parents older than we are, doesn’t mean they know any better. There’s nothing you can do to change him. He’s going to have to figure it out for himself. I don’t think you’re out of line for feeling the way you do, but you’re going to have to live your own life and let your dad learn his own lessons.

My kids have an alcoholic dad. What I’ve tried to let them know is that they can love him without loving his behavior. That may sound like pie-in-the-sky to you right now. My son is having trouble even speaking to his dad, so I see the position you are in.

As some of the others have said, you can choose to take this burden with you, or you can throw it away. The above is meant to show that you can throw away the burden without throwing away love for your dad.

Best of luck to you, blalron. You’ve got one more mommy in your corner.:wink: