I am not sure if this is the right forum for this question, but I suppose the mods move the thread if needed.
A few days ago, I learned through my best friend that one of our common, close long term friend’s boyfriend is a scientologist. The background is this:
The woman in question has been living with this man for 9 years, and they have a 2 year old child. I have met the boyfriend at several occations, and I absolutely can’t stand him. Not only is he arrogant and rude towards my friend (his girlfriend), he is also a very narrow-minded besserwisser who believes he has all the anwers and knows everything in the world better than everybody else. He has always been disdainful towards our other common friends who are professionals in various areas such as medicine, computers or architecture. He always knows better than the experts in their own areas of expertise. He is a lawyer by education, but for many years he has been working with “personality testing”. Now, I happen to have a double clinical psychologist/neuroscience education, and one of my lines of research is the neurophysiological basis of personality traits. To me is it obvious that this guy doesn’t even know the basics about personality theory or even standard test procedures, instead he is working with some seemingly home-made concepts and unfunded assumptions. This, I mentioned to my best friend the other day - that’s when she told me the guy is a scientologist, as an explanation for my critisism of him. Our common friend does not wish to discuss this with other people since she feels “people react negatively” towards it, and she herself knows nothing about scientology. He has shown her some books about child raising and personality development, which she thought sounded interesting. I should also mention that the scientologists is not a popular or common cult where I live, and most people have no idea what their agenda is, they are just viewed as “odd” here (here being Scandinavia).
Does anyone have similar experiences? What did you do? What do you recommend me to do? I would like my friend to realise what the scientology church stands for and what their values and ideas are, without scaring her away in isolation and risking that she too will become involved.