I love posters who update! Thank you.
This paragraph gives me the most awful flashbacks to what it was like to be a teenager. So glad I’m old now! 
a phone call to a “young womans” or “family violence center” will be able to help you find a sexual assualt advocate, a woman who is trained to help sexual assualt victims and will allow them to make the decision to report or not report and have any of the necessary medical issues taken care of, alternatively evidence can only be examined within 12-18 hrs or so however if the case is a repeated sort of thing that’s not important what is is getting her to the Advocate, also a planned parent hood style clinic should have a sexual assault advocate available all of these services are provided at no cost
Have you read the whole thread, Ford?
Anyway, daredevil007, it’s not that weird that Hannah says she doesn’t care what Anna thinks of her. She could just mean that she cares more about Anna’s wellbeing than their friendship.
I don’t know that tricking Anna into church will make her open up to a priest or anyone else, but getting another responsible adult involved probably can’t hurt. I hope this goes well.
listen i’m a mandatory reporter, i work with youth, and i’m a trained sexual assualt respondant, for what that is worth
we could talk about the best things to do or the right thing to do, little of that matters in response in what’s best for the girl, that being Her making her own decisions
as far as ambushing a person by leading them to a place through means of deception is wrong for so many reasons i’m not willing to discuss them
i will say that it is important to call ahead to ask the question will my confidentaility be maintained even at this age, usure of local regualtions as they vary from place to place, i can not provide you with any certainty in this area
however the answer is very simple, either she becomes involved with the local sexual assualt services, or she does nothing
while i understand she does have other options only will a advocate work for what is right for her often well meaning citizens can say or do something that as minor as it may seem will only cause further pain, this includes such trained professionals as Dr.s RNs and the police
a sexual assualt advocate, the title isn’t necessarily used everywhere but the words would be recgonized, is the only person who will work for only protecting what the young woman in question wants
I remember when you called the helpline, they were interested in knowing where Anna lived, but you didn’t have that info for them at the time. Now, between Hannah, Sean, etc., does one of them know where she lives (what town at least) and her full name? The helpline said you could call back and provide that info for them at any time. Personally, I think it would be a better bet to get that info and provide it to the helpline, rather than trying to trick Anna into talking to some priest she doesn’t know. Even if your friends can get her to show up at the church, Anna might not want to talk to anyone.
Anyhow, those are just my thoughts. I think you are doing a good job with all of this.
I am not trying to stall action, but based on the above quote I have my doubts concerning this plan to have Anna talk to a priest. Normally I would say consulting a priest would be great, but seems like too dangerous a situation to risk forcing Anna to talk to a priest. It seems like it could backlash terribly.
As others have said, make a second call to that helpline and give them Anna’s address. Surely you could at least look up her address in the phone book?
I have another update. Things have gone completely…weird with Anna.
(Disclaimer: Everything I say here is what I heard from Hannah.)
Well, Hannah told me that three years ago, when Anna was ten, her best friend was a 17-year-old guy “Josh”. And I quote from Hannah, “They were like father and daughter almost.” Which kind of creeped me out. But, anyways, Josh was always Anna’s refuge from her parents or something like that. One night, Josh heard yelling coming from her house. So, afterwards he climbed into her room through the window and hugged her. Anna’s mom walked in and she thought that they were doing something, so she forbade Anna from seeing Josh again. Then a couple days later, Anna biked to Josh’s house and walked in on him committing suicide. Apparently, he slashed his own throat.
Then, Anna’s friend, “Becky”, told her recently that Josh is her father and that he lied about his age. That was like a couple of months ago. Then, recently, Becky told Anna that she’s her biological sister and that Josh is her father, too. And of course, they don’t know who their mother is. :dubious:
Yesterday, Hannah told me that Becky’s sister, “Sara”, committed suicide by drowning herself in the tub. And Anna is the one who told Hannah. Hannah wants to go to Sara’s funeral, but Anna told Hannah that Becky doesn’t want her to.
I really don’t know what to make of all this. Hannah couldn’t get Anna to go to her church because Anna conveniently was grounded the day before Sean was supposed to take her there. And lately, Hannah’s been telling everyone about Anna (except the part where her father allegedly raped her). She’s been so dramatic about everything: “This world is so cold…where is the hope? It’s so small…how can anyone live here?” Honestly, I really do think that Anna made most of all this up. But, I still feel bad. Help?
I’m starting to think Hannah needs help. WTF?
Gotta agree with Dung Beetle: By your update it sounds more like Hannah needs help (or maybe not more, but “also”).
-Tikster
I gotta second the WTF-ness of this. Everybody in that situation needs help.
Definitely. Hannah told me that Anna told her everything. I believe that much. Honestly, Hannah’s always flaunting around the fact that she has a friend like Anna, like she’s proud of it and that she’s so specialized in helping people with these kinds of problems. And she disguises her nosiness with concern. She’s always telling my friends and me, “The world is painful and everybody’s hurting in SOME way. You’ll feel better if you talk to SOMEONE.” Whenever we get more work at school, she’s always saying, “Oh, gaaaaawd, how can I take all of this???” (Example: Some papers fell out of my locker today and as I was picking them up, I muttered, “Crap, everything feels like it’s falling apart.” Unfortunately, Hannah heard me and said, “YOU?? What about meeee? YOU don’t have a suicidal and clinically depressed friiiiiiiend whose friend’s sister just committed suicide.” Uh, first of all, I do have a clinically depressed friend you don’t know about because I don’t go around telling everyone that my friend used to have an abusive father…) Geez. She thinks that she’s the only person who’s carrying so much pain right now. :rolleyes: Every time she tells me something bizarre that concerns Anna and/or one of Anna’s “suicidal friends”, I always think, “WTF…??”