There shouldn’t be anything wrong with three teen/pre-teen siblings going to an (appropriate) movie together. Provided they know how to act, of course.
Maybe he did, and his sisters don’t listen to him. Or maybe he isn’t so responsible or aware, himself.
Is it snitching to recount to Mom what some lady at the theater said?
Why did she believe it? Why wouldn’t she?
Perhaps they did, but the one woman was the one who notably confronted them again afterwards. I do wonder if she thought to complain to theater management and ask for a refund.
But in fact, most people being disturbed in public places do feel helpless, or scared to speak up.
Since the bleeding heart brigade would freak if the girls were flogged, I think the public shaming is just about right. They fucked up in public, they can be shamed in public.
Sometimes teenagers have been taught correctly and still behave badly. Sometimes when teenagers are on their own and away from their parents they behave badly in a way they never would around their parents. Sometimes teenagers get a thrill out of being naughty despite being taught correctly by their parents.
Provided the parents know that the children know how to act. It was the mother’s decision to leave them on their own. The girls were not just careless or oblivious – they ignored a direct, reasonable request to be quiet. They were inconsiderate and disruptive, and it’s unlikely that this was the first time.
If the son was older then he too should have been disciplined. There’s no indication that he did anything to make things better. And yes, he snitched.
As for believing him, my point was that the mother went public with the story. That should require not just belief but almost certainty, and the son doesn’t seem to be very reliable. I’m guessing, though, that the girls fessed up.
I don’t even remotely see how this could be public shaming. How else was she to get to the proper people to make the girls face their consequences of their actions? And the other lady “guilt tripped” them? Really? Again, sometimes when you have assholic behavior, the thought is that what your doing really isn’t affecting others all that much. Hearing otherwise can be a huge eye opener. Or at least one would hope.
Glad I continued reading rather than just hitting reply. I could have been that girl, except for the fact that I was a boy. So could most of my junior high and high school class, even if we are just dealing with the ones whose parents tried to instill good manners into their children - I certainly wasn’t the exception, and was far from the worst.
It’s a bit of a tangent, but what’s wrong with the boy telling his mother? If you were the parent wouldn’t you want to know? Instead of calling him a snitch, think of him as a whistle blower.
If I were the parent, I would want my daughters and my son to behave responsibly in public.
According to the Daily News the son is 16 years old. Definitely old enough to know how to behave in a movie theater and old enough to say something to his 13-year old sisters if he was interested in making things better for other people in the theater.
The movie was Cinderella, not exactly the type of movie that a typical 16-year old boy would want to see, especially with his two younger sisters. Possible, of course, just not likely. Seems to me that the girls wanted to see the movie, the mother wasn’t interested in going with them and she told her son to accompany them. When they were misbehaving, he did nothing to stop them, and then decided to get his sisters in trouble by telling his mother about what they did. Perhaps he genuinely felt guilty when he heard about the other mom’s situation. In any case, he shares responsibility for what happened.
Do you have kids? My 13 year old is very respectful and quiet. My 15 year old is a great kid with good manners and maturity. If I put the 15 year old in charge of the 13 year old it turns into WWIII. The best thing she can do is tell me if anything happens so I can deal with it. Your belief that a 16 year old sibling can control 13 year olds is naive.
Not just good parenting, but good fucking parenting!
I did the same thing to my son when I found out he physically pushed his mother during a heated argument. (over school work, and at home chores)
I made him write an apology letter to his mom and then we wrote out a contract stipulating what his chores were, when he was supposed to do them, and when to do his homework.
I took the contract and pinned it up on the refrigerator for an entire year. I finally took it down a year later when I felt comfortable he wasn’t going to have a relapse of said bad behaviour.
The part that gave me the most eyerolling in Mom’s facebook post was that she offered to pay for the other family’s move tickets out of the girls’ allowance. I understand that the girls should face the consequences of their actions, but it’s just TMI in a public post. Certainly, if I was the affected woman, even if I were inclined to accept the money, I would reject it if I knew it was from the little girls’ pockets.
