What is with people saying she didn’t expect the post to go viral? Literally the only way this would work is if it goes viral. That’s the only way someone she is not friends with would get the message. She had to assume people would pass it on to their friends, who would pass it on to their friend, repeating until it reached the right person.
And, no, she didn’t need to contact her to provide consequences to her kid. She mentioned in the post that she was already punishing the kids. This wasn’t about parenting. This was about her feeling shame for what her kids reportedly did, and feeling a need to make it right.
And she does flat out say that it’s a good thing her kids were humiliated. So, regardless of intent, she’s happy that her kids were publicly shamed.
If you don’t have a problem with wide public shaming your kids, fine. But don’t act like the woman didn’t intend to do it or shows any regret.
Humility IS a good life lesson. I don’t get why so many people seem to think it isn’t:
“I claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace my steps.”
Public humiliation is an appalling strategy for any parent to use. My response to this story: yuck. Keep your child-raising failures to yourself, lady. Enough of the attention-seeking behavior.
If my kid pulled this shit in public, I’d be really angry…but VERY reluctant to do something like public shaming in response. It wouldn’t be off the table, but she’d have to be pretty unrepentant. Few kids are bad enough to deserve that.
And this is about as stupid as it gets. Blaming the parents for a child’s bad behavior. Look, a parent can do everything right, and some children might still be inclined to misbehave.
These girls learned a lesson in humility. Which is exactly what they needed.
Hmm, I think they should’ve made a complaint to an employee there; that is partly what they’re there for. Once you’ve been working in a theater for a while (I did when at uni) you get to know subtle ways to convey a strongly-worded reprimand without disturbing other people. Two 13-year old girls would be quite easy to scare the crap out of, it gets difficult when dealing with late teen boys/men so you call in reinforcements.
As to the public shaming? Meh, I’m sure the girls will live.
I didn’t mean that the parent was to blame for the children’s behavior (though she may have been, I just can’t possibly know one way or the other). The “failure” I was referring to was her response to the misbehavior.
It probably goes without saying, but it is entirely possible to learn humility without being publicly humiliated.
I read it another way. I took it to mean that the girls were going to make restitution for their actions and it wasn’t a case of the parent’s bailing out their misbehaving offspring. Where the money was coming from was an important point, IMO. If I were the affected woman, I would have rejected the offer if it was the parent’s money.
I agree, except, let’s be honest here: The money is still coming from the parents. Children are not entitled to allowances. Allowances are a privilege, not an entitlement.
If I were a low income earner and couldn’t afford to pay my children an allowance, my children are still going to be obligated to do chores around the house.